Breastfeeding is still going horribly despite all the amazing advise I've had from the wonderful mumsnetters. When I feed dd she sometimes screams at the breast which makes me really worried as we r going on holiday in just two days and I'm freaking out about the plane, going out for meals etc. she isn't settled and bottles don't make any difference. I've been told I probably have a foremilk/hind milk imbalance so I am trying block feeding but I'm really worried why my dd screams so much. I'm exhausted and have ended up hating breast feeding and not enjoying dd at all. I don't know what to do. She is on medication for reflux and we r dairy free and has dairy free formula too. But she still isn't settled. I'm dreading my holiday now. I wish I wasn't going.
How old is she? Can you see a midwife who specialises in helping with breastfeeding, or a La Leche consultant, or an NCT breastfeeding advisor?
I have had similar problems before (mine were possibly excessive let down teamed with a baby who wanted a small amount of milk slowly) - it wasn't solved by seeing my favourite midwife but she had ideas which helped, and plenty of reassurance.
Mumsnet is good (as is KellyMom - might be worth a look if you don't know it) but there is also a lot to be said for a RL trained person.
Listen if you're having a bad time of it, a change of scene might actually do your mind a bit of good (same old shit, different place....)
It might also give you space to reflect on the best way forward. You being dairy free to try to help dd is a huge commitment, i did it with ds and felt very trapped in a 'breast milk is best' self imposed situation, even tho gp had agreed to prescribe hypoallergenic formula. How old is dd, does she accept the formula? Un mn hugs x
Dd is ten weeks now. And although she excepts the formula she doesn't take very much. It's really the constant screaming that is so upsetting. She takes 2oz of the bottle and the is done and gets fed up and wants breast. It's the wrong time to give up breastfeeding just in case something goes wrong. Doctor said to go cold turkey if I do give up. With dd1 I fed her til 8 months and the breast really settled her. Doesn't do it for dd2. runningblue that's exactly how I feel. Trapped. I can't eat dairy or anything very spicy, or "windy". The baby weight is falling off which is a bonus but I feel very trapped. Everyday I vow to give up.
Check out Analytical Armadillo's FB page and maybe see if she can help. She is a bit of a boob guru and has an experienced group of breast feeders around her might be able to pitch in with some advice.
You are brilliant to keep trying. I know how hard it is. My son went on three nursing strikes during the 6 months I breastfed him. It was extremely stressful and nothing like as intense as what you are going through.
Have you tried dozy feeds? I found that it was always easier to feed him just when he woke up from naps/at night, as he was too dozy to get worked up.
I went through the trapped feeling to feed for over 10 months. I was like a stick, thinner that i had been in years and years, as my diet was so self imposed restricted. Some mums cope very well with it, as ive seen on here, others like me, and i have a hunch you, feel trapped by it. Can i be honest, if your baby accepts the formula, you are half way there, it is such horrid tasting stuff, my ds baulked and refused point blank, hence the ongoing breastfeeding. I would disagree with the gp about going cold turkey (because i am of course an esteemed medicial professional - not!) this isnt the time to do it probably, but you could wean your baby onto one bottle per day, like you do if you were stopping bf. then your body gets used to that, then you reduce one more feed etc. As for getting her to accept the formula, you could express off milk, and use that as in ratio to the formula so she gradually gets used to it. Whatever you do, whether you decide to wean onto formula feed or not, dont lose her ability to take a bottle. Otherwise you might leave it a few weeks or minths then you have that to tacke too....,
I suppose what i'm saying is that if you see the time on holiday to think what you might do next, it might give you some purposeful direction to get through it, as you have a plan when you get home ifyswim