Hi there, I've had a missed miscarriage and am booked in for an ERPC on Friday. The mc was spotted on a scan last Tuesday and I more or less held things together for the first few days as we had a party on Saturday so I distracted myself with thinking about that. But since Sunday I've been struggling, not helped by the fact that I'm still feeling REALLY sick and tired, and that I think DH doesn't fully understand how much of a failure I feel (it's my 3rd mc and 2nd in 12 weeks). But what makes me feel really bad is that DS hasn't been very well the last few days and has been whiny and clingy - on Sunday I snapped and shouted at him then had to go upstairs in tears while DH looked reproachfully at me.
I'm not looking forward to the ERPC, particularly the thought of having a general anaesthetic, but I'm hoping that once it's done I'll be able to think about moving forward. But I also need to start thinking about, and dealing with, the possibility that we aren't going to have our very much wanted 2nd child due to my age (44). And that's something that makes me want to crawl into a hole and howl.
I feel so guilty about being horrid to DS but I feel I need some time on my own and I don't see when or how I'm going to get it. Has anyone had counselling and found it useful? Or does that sort of thing come as part of the package with the recurrent miscarriage clinic?
Sorry to whine, but I know there will be people here who understand how I'm feeling and I don't really have anyone like that in RL.
Rachel x
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Rachel1963 · 08/08/2007 12:54
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