My mum has ovarian cancer - we thought it had been treated successfully (for now, anyway) but unfortunately I came back almost straight after she finished her first course of chemo in May.
The prognosis now is very poor. She is having more chemo and if the cancer responds to that (there's only a 20% chance of that happening) she's maybe got another 9 months. If it doesn't respond it'll obviously be less.
My parents are brilliant grandparents and much loved by my children. Dd1 knows that her grandma has a very bad disease but doesn't know the extent of it really. I think it all confuses her a bit. Unfortunately I am not coping so well with it all and can frequently be found sobbing into my pillow - I try to pull myself together when the children are around, but it's too hard.
I don't know what to tell then children. Dd1 gets really upset and starts crying too when she sees me crying. Ds (3) tells me that I mustn't cry and hands me his cuddly to make me feel happy again.
Should I tell dd1? I don't want to burden her and I don't want her to blurt out something inappropriate when she next sees my mum. OTOH, should she know for some reason or other?
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my mum is dying - when/what do I tell dd1 (8) ?
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geekgirl · 10/07/2007 12:35
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