Child's headstone

(13 Posts)
Sucksfake1 Tue 07-Jun-16 19:53:02

I lost my son just over a year ago at 1 day old. He was born at 24 weeks.

I'm ok in the sense that I feel like I have done my grieving if that makes sense? Iv had my breakdown complete with overdose and hospital stay but I have two living children to be strong for.

My mams just been made redundant and wants too pay for his headstone for me. Which I am obviously very grateful for.

The problem is looking at quotes and pictures has just had me in bits. I feel like I'm just back too this time last year.

Iv decided on:

(Name surname)
Shh baby sleeping
17/05/2015-18/05/2015
Son, brother, grandson
Tread carefully, here lies our world

Does this sound ok? It's just something I never thought I'd have too do.

Floggingmolly Tue 07-Jun-16 19:54:30

It sounds beautiful flowers

kitkat1968 Tue 07-Jun-16 19:54:39

Oh that is lovely xx

PoisonWitch Tue 07-Jun-16 19:56:19

That is gorgeous OP. Very fitting.

ineedamoreadultieradult Tue 07-Jun-16 19:58:09

Sounds lovely it says everything.

OhTheRoses Tue 07-Jun-16 20:01:36

It sounds as perfect as perfect can be. My son's grave has been a great comfort to me and I still visit it. Very similar: b 8.6, d 8.6. He was, like your son, lovely and full of promise.

He would be 19 tomorrow and I promise you that eventually it becomes bearable darling.

Gracey79 Tue 07-Jun-16 20:04:41

It's beautiful, so sorry for your loss flowers

Sucksfake1 Tue 07-Jun-16 20:11:56

Sorry for anyone who's also had too do it. Ohtheroses flowers

I'm a lot more at peace now. I think it's just the anniversary plus headstone has made me wobble.

Thank you all mn is literally the only place I can really feel ok too ask about what to do.

Just2MoreSeasons Tue 07-Jun-16 20:16:11

So sorry for your loss.
I think that wording is absolutely perfect and is very fitting.
💐 For you.

homeiswheretheginis Tue 07-Jun-16 20:42:45

My dd died at the same age z I'm so sorry that your little boy couldn't stay longer OP. I think your headstone is absolutely beautiful. Just read it to my DH and we both had a little cry. You've encapsulated how we feel.

OhTheRoses Tue 07-Jun-16 22:17:13

It's very good there are fora like this nowadays. Have you had support from Sands OP. They were very helpful to me. I have complete blanks about the first year, except for dd being born 51 weeks later. I remember the psychiatrist coming to see me the day after she was born and it was completely surreal.

DH came home early today - he never discusses it but I can see he's pfaffed with pictures. Tomorrow I'll go to the cemetery and buy something I think he'd have liked at 19. He would have been my funny, happy go lucky one I think.

Apologies sucksfake. A poignant night but it doesn't hurt now. Time and space heals and his big brother and little sister have made it a very good life.

Your mum is doing a lovely thing for you xxx

Chinks123 Tue 07-Jun-16 22:20:54

Perfect wording, really lovely flowers

gingerbreadmanm Tue 07-Jun-16 22:28:14

So sorry for your loss. Headstone sounds lovely.

My ds was stillborn at 27 weeks in july last year. I didnt want a headstone as i didnt think i could get across the pain of loosing him on there. He got one in the end due to circumstances. We went for something simple

Ds name
Son of me and dp
Our beautiful baby boy born sleeping on ds dob.

Simple and im happy enough with it. Our anniversary is fast approaching. Sending big hugs to u.

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