I'm not really sure why I did it, but today I opened a box that I sealed nearly 10 years ago, soon after my first love died. I had almost forgotten what was inside. I thought I wouldn't ever open it again, my life is so very different now.. I'm nearly 30 years old, happily married.. things have moved on.
But today I opened it, looked through the pictures, felt his t-shirt, saw his handwriting. And read my diary from when I was 17-18 years old when I fell in love for the first time.
It is just so unbelievably heart breaking. I wish I could talk to somebody about this but friendships have changed over the years and it would seem so wrong to try and start talking about it all again. But I just felt I need to say something...
In my diary I am a head over heels infatuated with him, completely and utterly obsessed. It reminds me of thing we said to each other, how badly he treated me, how stupidly I acted at times, what a beautiful person he was, one of my best friends. I wish I could go back in time and shake myself for being so silly, or nieve. If only I had known what would happen to him, it just seems so unfair. I wish I could go back and comfort myself after it all happened.. it was just so much to deal with at 18 - I really believe it changed my life.
If he were still alive today I could almost laugh about how we acted.. but instead it all just so tragic. I thought we had all the time in the world, we hardly had any time at all. I feel like I took those years for granted, if only I knew.
So many regrets, so many what ifs. I know it doesn't help but I can't help feeling how bloody unfair it was for it to happen to him, to me, to us.
I'm sorry, I'm not even asking for anything here.. I just needed to say something, to someone.
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firstofjune · 18/05/2014 14:24
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