I've done all the organising myself as I'm an only child, but in a way I feel glad I can do it for him. When my mum died I was a young 22 and not really able to do her justice I don't think, now I can cope much better and deal with things as they crop up rather than flap.
And my husband is amazing. I've never really been a big crier (well not in front of people anyway) so I think I'm finding it strange to just let go and sob in front of him. Not that I can really hold it in all the time anyway.
Just picked my daughter up from school and she's made me a 'feel better soon' card because she knows I'm sad. These wee people make me strong.
I'm so sorry for everyone who has lost their loved ones too.
I'm so sorry for your loss (how trite that sounds).
Do not underestimate your children's understanding. DD was 2.9 when my parents died and did seem to grasp the concept and cope. She was my rock and strength and kept me going. She did not attend their funerals but did come to Dad's wake, which was lovely.
Please keep talking as and when you need to and be kind to yourself.
ps: My children didn't come to the funeral but they did come to the wake, which I think was the best way as the funeral was obviously very emotional! My son did do a poem for his grandad which we read at the funeral.
By the time they arrived at the wake, people were talking more light heartedly and there weren't so many tears and children are a good distraction.
I'm really sorry for your loss. Please try not to hide how you are feeling from your DH. I lost my mum earlier this year and I've tried to be more open with my feelings. When my dad died 20 years ago I bottled my feelings up and I don't think it was healthy. Having your DCs at the wake sounds like a good idea. They'll be good company for you and will probably lighten the mood for everyone.
I'm so very sorry. I lost my Dad to lung cancer nearly a year ago. Sadly I think there is little I can say to comfort you. Cling to your children - they will see you through.
My third child DS2 was born 5 months before Dad died - the day after his birthday. I can imagine some of the feelings you may have about your third DC and his/her due date. He was such a comfort to me in those dark days before and after Dad died.
Take comfort from them and try to be kind to yourself. It's a long road xx
Not a thread I thought I'd need to post for a long while yet.
My dad had end stage copd and lived in hospital but I thought he would still have at least a year left. But on Saturday I got the call to go and be with him as he was struggling. He held on til early hours of Monday.
I was with him all day Sunday through to 2am when I felt really ill and started swelling up. I'm 32 weeks pregnant. The nurses said they'd wanted to send me home hours ago, so I went home but only an hour later they called to say come back. He had gone by the time I got there.
I feel awful I wasn't holding his hand as he went, but a big part of me thinks (knows) he waited for me to leave before he could go. He was like that - never wanted to worry me
I'm just so up and down just now. My kids are 7 and 3 and I think are still too young to grasp what's happened. My mum died 12 years ago so they know about heaven but have never actually 'lost' someone before. They won't be attending the cremation but I thought they could come to the wake?
And my baby boy is due on the 10th of December which is my dads birthday. He was so looking forward to seeing him.
God this post is huge sorry! Just feel like I'm holding it all together for the kids and my husband so he doesn't worry about me. Crying one minute, fine the next.