Missing him so much. Can barely make it through the day at the moment.

(19 Posts)
Minkulus Tue 21-May-13 18:22:44

My husband died at the beginning of April and I'm really struggling. Just needed to tell someone. Xx

musickeepsmesane Tue 21-May-13 18:24:12

I hope you ask someone in RL for a hug flowers

Wishiwasanheiress Tue 21-May-13 18:26:05

I'm so sorry. I cannot imagine your pain. I wish you strength. Am listening. No advice. Just here....

Jinsei Tue 21-May-13 18:28:29

I'm so sorry. It must be very lonely without him. Did he die quite suddenly, or had he been ill? Do you have good RL support?

MrsFrederickWentworth Tue 21-May-13 18:30:14

I'm so sorry. Didn't want to read and run.

Have you thought of contacting Cruse? I understand they are really really helpful, and do one on one support.

The loneliness is so hard, friends tell me.

Timetoask Tue 21-May-13 18:33:06

So sorry for your loss. It hasn't been long at all. Although I am sure his memory will always be with you, I am also sure you will feel stronger as time goes by. It will take time, but you will feel stronger.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Tue 21-May-13 18:33:08

I'm really sorry for your loss.

Do you have any support?

GerardWay Tue 21-May-13 18:34:11

Ohhh Mink, I remember your thread when your DH passed away. I am so sorry for your loss. Are your family and RL friends still being supportive?

flowers and a big (((((hug)))))

birdsnotbees Tue 21-May-13 18:37:05

Didn't want to read and run: I'm so sorry & hope you can get some RL support. Big hugs

Minkulus Tue 21-May-13 18:38:16

Thanks for the replies. I feel as if I'm being a bit "greedy" because I had so much lovely support when my husband first died. It's just today has been hell and I feel so alone. RL friends very loving but they are all at home doing family routines etc and I'm trying to keep calm and up beat so I can get my DCs to bed without my melt down. Xx

TheSecondComing Tue 21-May-13 18:40:40

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

5madthings Tue 21-May-13 18:44:55

mink I don't know you and missed your original thread but I just looked at your profile and you are in the same county as me. Depending where you are if you want to meet u for a drink, a break etc just pm me.

I am sorry for your loss, hops you get the kids to bed ok xxx

GerardWay Tue 21-May-13 18:49:08

It's still very early days Mink. You haven't been 'greedy' with your friends and families time. I can guarantee that if you told them how you feel one of them would be with you in a heartbeat.

If nothing else please phone one of them.

nancerama Tue 21-May-13 19:08:05

Of course you miss him. There are far too many ladies like you on here at the moment - I wish I could wave a magic wand and take away the pain for you all.

Take one day at a time, be sad if you need to be, but don't feel guilty about smiling on the good days. Make sure you eat and drink properly.

Did your DH do anything special for the DCs? Was there a particular game they played together, a song they loved to sing, or a story he told beautifully? Write it all down for your DCs so they remember him always.

Take care of yourself and keep talking to us x

<< hugs>>

GerardWay Wed 22-May-13 15:29:13

Hi Minks, how are you today?

RatherBeOnThePiste Wed 22-May-13 16:20:29

Big hugs lovely, thinking of you all here Xx

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Thu 23-May-13 12:16:23

Treading water is so very tiring and you probably put on a brave front for every waking hour especially with children.

It helps if you can write something down, a letter or diary. If you can find somewhere out of earshot and let rip with a scream or shout, let some pain out.

Ask point blank for help or company.
Evenings, weekends and bank holidays especially when the all the world seems coupled up or busy with family are tough. Your family and friends won't take it amiss if you suggest get-togethers.

A phone call, the radio, fill up the silence. Come onto MN. I'm sorry OP.

Blondeshavemorefun Tue 04-Jun-13 21:10:32

Mink - I'm sorry for your loss of your dh and it shit that both you and trinity have both lost a love one twice

Please call your friends - just because you have had their support once doesn't mean you don't deserve it again

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