Hi mums, Sorry this is so long, but i hope you will be able to help me.
I am a 37 year old mum,and have a daughter who is 11. My memories of secondary school are not great, i went to a small girls convent school and suffered quite a bit of bullying. I got through it though, and once i left school i managed to rebuild my confidence. However, its obvious that past memories of bullying re-surface when my daughter has her ups and downs with her friends.
My daughter is in her last year of primary school, she has quite a few friends and seems happy most of the time. She chats with her friends on the phone for ages, and sees them often.
Whenever she comes home with a problem, for instance, a friend has been mean etc. instead of having a rational view of it all, i get worried and all my bullying memories flood back.I take it all out of proportion and i might not show it to her, but in the back of my mind i think "this is it, shes going to get bullied like i did".
Yesterday my daughter went on a 5 day adventure trip with her school, not all the kids went, about 20. She was chatting and seemed fine while we were all waiting for the coach to arrive. When she got on the coach, i noticed that none of her friends had sat next to her. Perhaps it just worked out that way, and she drew the short straw. I felt sorry for her, as it was a 4 hour journey ahead. Again, instead of keeping a rational head on my shoulders, i blew it all out of proprtion, thinking and wondering why she was left out. As usual, i cant help worrying about her, hoping she is ok and not to upset that she got left out.
how do i keep an open mind, and get over this problem. bulliyng seems to leave its mark, no matter how old you are, and how much you try. i know that i need to overcome these hysterical resonses to everyhting that my daughter goes through, but how, and where do i start?
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mumsrule · 10/06/2008 07:37
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