My dd is waking as early as 2am saying she 'is scared'!

[ROSEgarden]

She isnt scared, theres no noises, she just wakes up and wants me to get into bed with her(as i have been doing) and will cry saying 'but im scared' no matter what alternative ive offered.

ive trying bribing , reasoning, threatening(you cant have/do x if you dont go abck to sleep)..nothing working and im aching after another night in 1/3 of a single bed...ive got a star chart to start today, but does anyone else have any suggestions for me?

[mishymoo]

Do you think she may have just got herself into a "routine" of waking up now knowing that you will get into bed with her? How old is your DD?

Have you thought about a night light or leaving the landing light on?

[ROSEgarden]

exactly what i think MishyMoo, i just dont know how to break the cycle????
Shes 4 almost 5 so cant be fobbed off with certain things anymore (the fairies used to come and leave a surprise if she satyed in her own bed all night...even this doesnt work anymore?)

She sees a glimpse of day light and she awake, so although she has a night light i dont think it would help, but i know what you mean, it wouls reassure her if she could see around her when she woke...am stumped..and aching

[Sixer]

do you stay all night? or disappear back to your own bed once she's asleep?

[ROSEgarden]

i used to try and creep out but she wakes now, once shes woke that first time she sleeps very light and tbh, prob not very well as hers is a single bed and me in it doesnt give her much space!!..so no, i stay there otherwise id be up and down every 5 mins

[Sixer]

What about if you stop for a couple of hours and try to make it to your own bed for the morning, so when she does waken, you aren't in her bed. DS1 put us both through this, "mummy i'm scared" thing. When i asked what of, it was monsters under the bed, the dark, my brother (who was 3), or anything else he could come up with on the spot. We also threw magic dust (glitter) around the room, opened the windows and chanted for all the baddies to go. They buggered orf never to wreak our sleep again.

[ROSEgarden]

good tips Sixer, tried a few of them, maybe its time to dust them off and try again..just been filling in her star cahrt and she said(at the aprt where it says slept in ownbed and didnt shout) but i did sleep in my own bed mummy and i went straight back to sleep...bloody clever 4yr olds!..i explained why i need to sleep in my own bed(hers is big enough for her nd her teddy, mine is made for two people, she was all stiff this morn from not being able to stretch out properly)and told her she could have had all 8 stars today if she had slept in her own bed on her own..she says she promises ahe will do it tonight??