Has anyone any advice on how to help children make friends at school?
DS 6 has struggled with friendships since starting school last year, making only a few fragile inconsistent friendships. He is a shy, sensitive child and prefers girls company to boys, which in some ways is a shame as the boys outnumber the girls 2:1 in his class. His two main girl friends each have a girl bestfriend and DS gets extremely jealous and I think causes trouble as a result. I have tried talking to him about trying to get along with the other friends but he retorts 'but she doesn't like me!'. I have tried to encourage him to play with the boys and have boys back to tea but I end up entertaining boy guest as DS struggles to find common ground. I have told him that if he tries to get along with everyone he will have a happier easier life, but his response is to change the subject or just walk away.
I have talked to his teacher who only suggests tea/play dates but DS says no to every name I suggest. I have organised three parties for him in the past year but he rarely gets invited back. DH says DS has to sort it out for himself and I should stop being such a thrusting middleclass mother. Is he right? Should I just accept the status quo and hope that he matures into friendships later on? I feel I will have truely failed him if he becomes a real billy no mates.. But what to do????
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mugglewump · 29/01/2008 22:31
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