I am at loss with how to deal with dds bad behaviour... She is 5.8 but listening to her you would think she is 15!!
I think the original root is that she has been spoiled by my pils. She is an only child and they looked after her part time when she was a baby until she started school. Unfortunately they do not know how to say no and as a result she has diva tendencies which do not get pandered to at home or with her other grandparents (it is an ongoing battle)
For the past few months her behaviour had gradually got worse and worse to the point where I feel angry all the time . She is fine when she is playing and pottering about but the main trigger seems to be if I ask her to do something she doesn't want to do (normally getting ready for school - brushing teeth, getting dressed etc or at homework time). Then she switches on the temper - shouts back at me, slams doors and is generally nasty. This is also sneaking into other times of the day too - if she gets frustrated if her drawing goes wrong, can't do her coat up etc. She knows it is wrong to speak to us like this but it doesn't stop her...
So far I have tried time-out, withdrawal of tv time, taking her fave toy away so she has to earn it back as well as positive praise when she behaves well to reinforce that this is how we want her to be. (I have given each method time to work - not all methods at the same time!!) I am also trying to pick my battles and not sweat the small stuff.
When I ask her things I explain why we need to do it and why it needs to be done at that time, rather than just ordering her about but she just argues back about everything. Then I end up losing my temper with her, shouting (which is compounding the problem as she then thinks it's okay to shout...) and then feeling crap for the rest of the day.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can deal with this as to be honest I am floundering....?
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Need Advice on DDs (5) temper and nastiness....
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MissusH · 22/01/2008 11:47
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