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Has anyone else's just turned two year old ds turned into a complete nightmare overnight or is it just mine?

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Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 09:48

Ds was 2 on 25th Nov and over the last couple of weeks his behaviour has been terrible he hits , bites and pulls his sister's her. If something annoys him he'll hit out at the nearest person and/or throw the nearest thing whether it be little or huge. Even in the doctor's waiting room the other day he tried to steal an old lady's walking stick and when I told him 'no' he hit the woman next to her! I can't seem to discipline him at all the naughty stair does not work as he just uses the phone, dp has started putting him in the corner of the room for time out but he will not stay there so he keeps having to put him back. I tried the time out with him sitting infront of me and me holding him until he calmed down but he overpowered me and I couldn't keep him there. I'm struggling doing this as i'm nearly 38 weeks pregnant and it's too physical for me. He's quick to say sorry and be all cute but i'd rather he didn't behave like this in the first place and I am dreading what he's going to be like when his little brother arrives. DD had her tantrums at this age too but she could be disciplined and learnt from this but ds seems so much more babyish than her at the same age. It's really gettng me down now as i'm not enjoying being with him especially as i'm so damn tired all the time.

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Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 09:49

*hair not her!

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Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 09:59

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mustsleep · 19/12/2007 10:11

nope it's not just you

dd has turned into a nightmare she turned two in september so far she has put the cat in the fridge, drawn on nearly every wall in the house ( i do not have any idea where she keeps on findin all the pens i can never find one when i need one)
she keeps getting stuff out of the freezer and trying to eat whilst it's frozen and will have a super tantrum when it's take away

she has worked out ow to get her safety gate open and destroyed my makeup several times so we have had to put a lock the door to our room but now she's going in the bathroom so we are going to have to do something with that

she takes a bottle of water to bed with her and has started squirting it out all over

arrrrggggghhhhh

you are not alone

Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 10:13

Thank God for that. I just don't know what to do with him, he's turning into that child. You know the one you see in supermarkets and thank the lord he isn't yours!

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mustsleep · 19/12/2007 10:13

oh forgot to say we tried the naughty step but i'm sure she enjoys it as she is either quite happy to sit there and play with the shoes or she screams and screams and screams (are you supposed to igore them for the two mins of screaming or start the time fro after they stop?)

i don't like to smack as i think this just shows that's how to react when something goes wrong to her, but there's not much left to do as when she is told no she cry for all of two mins and then carry on doing the thing she was getting told off for

mustsleep · 19/12/2007 10:15

i know that child well as it is mine

although she will be awful for he full shopping trip and i will be looking all suicidal/harrassed when we get to the checkout she will be all cute and smily at the checkout person like butter wouldn;t melt!!

Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 10:16

I have come very close to smacking him but it's been out of anger which I know would be a mistake. Also I don't see the point in hitting him for hitting me iyswim. When I tell him off he laughs and thinks what he's doing is funny. He has reduced me to tears. Then i'm thinking stupid things like this is what boys must be like and as i'm having another boy am starting to panic. Although the rational side of me knows that every child is different I can't help thinking that I will not be able to cope with two children like him!

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mustrunmorewantsanewname · 19/12/2007 10:18

Ds2 will be 2 in Feb, andis rapidly gettinginto full swing (no pun intended) of his hitting and throwing phase He also puts everything down the loo at least 4 times a day, and climbs on everything (6ft bookcasesetc). I dont remember ds1 being this bad. In fact, I've just lost a very long and good friendship because the 'friend' told me what a bad parent I was and how Ishould try saying 'no', because one 'no' will stop all the misbehaviour

Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 10:20

that's horrible of your 'friend' Mustrunmore.

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lilmissmummy · 19/12/2007 10:21

DD (3 on xmas eve) is an absolute nightmare- started about 6 months ago and still going! thought you might be interested in this page as it has some more stories that might make you feel a bit better!

I am looking for light at the end of the tunnel but all I can see is darkness at the moment

RubySlippedonastraymincepie · 19/12/2007 10:23

i posted this yesterday about my 18 month old DS

not sure I have words of wisdom, but much, much sympathy

i have heard of a book called Toddler Taming which i have sent DH out to buy

i also keep telling myself "it is just a phase"

Mustrunmore - your friends sounds very supportive

Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 10:29

Ooh I've actually got that book somewhere I think i'll try and dig it out. Thanks for the link Lilmiss at least i'm not alone! I'm hoping it is just a phase or maybe he's sensing the impending arrival of his little brother...

I'm planning a homebirth and the mw scared me yesterday by telling me that because my last birth was so fast and some of the on- call mws live quite far away there is a chance I may have to do it alone until they get there. She gave me a quick what to do if the baby comes lesson including warm towels and the like. Now i'm thinking OMG what if i'm on my own with ds, he'll make a crap birth partner, he'll let me guide the baby out but then when he's sees the placenta he'll shout 'Ball' and launch it through the air!

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mustsleep · 19/12/2007 10:32

please don't think it is boys that are just like this ledodgy

ds is six now and he was never like this he had his moments but mostly he was a lovely loving well behaved little boy, so you might be lucky next time!!

unfortuntely dd seems to pick on him quite a bit she has broken the skin before when she has bitten him and scratched, nipped

just need to keep on being firm and returning them to step and letting them know that this is naughty behaviour i think

Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 10:34

Yeah ty I think you're right. It will be easier when i'm no longer pregnant and can wrestle him to the stair etc!

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mustsleep · 19/12/2007 10:38

i know i hate it when supernanny says just pick them up and take them (she must do weights) kids can make themselves really heavy when they want to. My fave is having to insert my knee into her middle to make her bend when she doesnlt want to go in the buggy so i can strap her down in

Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 10:39

Oh God yeah or when I try to put his trousers on and he collapses his legs and won't stand up!

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Gumbo · 19/12/2007 10:41

Ledodgy, my ds turned 2 on the same day as yours! And I agree - it was like a button had been pressed on his 2nd birthday - he's been far more stubborn/strongwilled/difficult to please since then. He even bit another child for the 1st time on the day he turned 2!!!

The one thing that seems to help a bit is being ridiculously consistent with everything - including discipline. DS is definitely pushing his boundaries to check what he can get away with more than he used to, so we're trying to remain consistently firm.

DH and I keep telling ourselves it's 'just a phase'....

Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 10:44

Lol I think 'it's just a phase' has become our mantra. Gumbo our sons were both born the day George Best died perhaps they somehow caught his rebellious spirit!

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Gumbo · 19/12/2007 10:47

I hope not!!!

lazawreath · 19/12/2007 10:50

My nearly two year old ds has been carefully watching his nearly three year old brother for tips on craziness, and now he puts up a bit of a fight when i put him in his pushchair and if i tell him to stop doing something he just says 'no' and carries on.
Although with my eldest I now put him in his room for a few minutes if he carries on ignoring me. Ive decided that shouting at them doesnt work so it's best to just remain calm and say 'if you carry on doing that i'll put you in your room' then you have to carry it out even when they're arching their back and screaming. It does work though and you find yourself staying calm rather than getting frustrated.

Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 10:52

I'll definately try that after i've had the baby Lazawreath. Atm I can't even carry him to his room as he's too heavy and i'm too pregnant especially if he's kicking and screaming!

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lazawreath · 19/12/2007 10:54

How about having a travel cot nearby? Not as far to go.

Ledodgy · 19/12/2007 11:17

It's a good idea but atm I think i'd struggle lifting him up and in a travel cot iyswim I literally am ready to drop!

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lazawreath · 19/12/2007 11:23

oh right, well, you'll have to let your dp deal with him for now then, and after you've had the baby. Will your dp be taking paternity leave?

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