Help!
Have namechanged as I'm known in RL by my normal nickname.
We're all going away in 3 weeks time for a week with my Sis, BIL and their DD for one of those spa/activity break things in the Lakes. Our DD will be 2.9, and theirs will be very nearly 2 by the time of the holiday.
Their DD is... I'm going to sound fearfully judgemental whatever I put, so here goes bluntly: She's clingy and has been since she was born, is never told 'no' and is constantly pandered to. Last time we visited (2 months ago) she slapped dd and pulled her hair to grab toys off her and was not told off by her parents. When I said (quite gently, I'm not an ogre) to her that 'we mustn't hit', she burst into angry howls and put her arms straight out for her mum, glaring at me. Her dad laughed and said 'oh, she's not used to hearing that she can't do something'... I said not to worry, children in their own house are always goign to be possesive aobut their toys, he laughed again and said 'oh, they say she's like that in nursery too'
Whlist I'm no advocate of leaving children to cry, she is never allowed to just get on with being grumpy, at the first hint of a whimper they are constantly picking her up and walking her around, giving her sweets/toys/whatever to jolly her along. I'm not sure she's old enough to be 'spoilt rotten' but she certainly comes over like that. I feel mean typing this...
Anyway, my actual dilemma is that they are far sportier than we are and while we are happy to mess about the pool/spa with DD, they want to go out and do the abseiling/boating/rock-climbing stuff and have asked us if we'd mind having their dd while they go.
I've said yes (otherwise it isn't really a holiday for them), but I am a bit concerned about my niece(dn?)'s potential behaviour. They were round at my parents last week and my dad said that she just roared angrily at them if they tried to pick her up, only her mummy would do, she wouldn't go to sleep, my poor sister ended up having to carry her around the whole weekend.
So I'm really not looking forward to this! The two children play well together providing no toys are involved - if dd has a toy that dn wants, she will pull hair/slap/scream to get it - but if she's so clingy at the moment, then am I in for several hours a day of hell?
Does anyone have any suggestions at to what I can do if she is like this with us? I've been soooo lucky with my own dd, she's never really been a clinger, or even particularly moody, so I have no coping strategies for this sort of thing!
(I'm sure I'm overreacting and she's going to be a perfect angel, but it would be nice to have some advice in advance, just in case!)
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Concerned about having to babysit my niece - any advice, please?
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CarmelitaSpats · 15/11/2007 11:11
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