I've put it on the sleep thread to no avail - so I'll take my chances here.
A good friend is really struggling - hasn't had a night's sleep in a year - I can't give good advice as a) my one child is quite easy to look after so I'm not an expert in different 'methods' b) i'm not in her position
Her ds who is one next week has never slept through the night. She's never even had him in any kind of routine. Before you judge - she's got a partner (useless( and is the full time carer for her old, large and disabled mum - who takes alot out of her and cannot be disturbed before 2pm every day. . For financial reasons she's had to go back to work at 5 months - ds in nursery full time. I was hoping he'd get into a routine then (ie be so knacked he'd sleep nights - but not so).
Now I do remember feeding her ds when he was tiny - and was shocked to hear him scream for milk - take three sips, push the bottle away and then repeat this pattern 5 mins later!!!!! She's managed to get him off the milk at nights - but gives juice (!) - think this is the same thing. He's never slept in his cot - I've told her to forget the cot - get him sleeping through the nights first. Am I right?
Also trying to introduce controlled crying when you've got a mum like hers - doing a full time heavy job with a 3 hour round commute (ditto her partner) where you pray you can arrive/leave work on time and no probs with trains to pick up her ds at nth hour - where does she start!!!!!
I wish I could be of more practical help to her - my ds is 6 months older - but I live over an hour away and have also just gone back to work. I'd love to be able to say I'd look after her ds one weekend - but you know it's seems ages ago my ds was one year's old and I not sure how I'd cope with the two!!!Before I went back to work I went to stay with my mum (who lives near her) and tried to persuade her to come a stay a few days and I thought that between her me and my mum we could get him into a routine - but she has her pride and didn't come. Agh!
What should she start tackling and in what order and how!
No she can't log onto mumsnet herself - she doesn't have a pc at home.
She's the lovliest most kind person in the world so your advice would be most appreciated. I do so want to see her make good progress for her own sake more than anything. I just don't know what to say to her.
Please do help. I plan to email her on Monday when she's back at work.
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Really need advice on this baby 1 year old- sleep - behaviour the works.
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mumsville · 06/10/2007 13:55
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