DD2 is 20months. Since being born she has always been very vocal about what she dislikes. It takes nothing to make her scream with rage and until whatever issue has been resolved she just yells and yells. It can be the most minor thing - e.g. yesterday she had a total fit because DH cut her tomato. This afternoon was because her playdoh gingerbread man had marks on it that she created. If she doesn't get the particular sppon / fork she fancies at any particular meal, etc etc. In the morning she wakes up and instantly screams and screams until she gets her milk, and as she's always the first to wake it means that the rest of us are ripped out of sleep by her tantrum.
As a baby I was fairly resigned to that being just how she is but now she's starting to speak and can make herself understood very well for her age I'm begining to wonder if there's anything else going on. It's like the immediate obstacle she encounters provokes a tantrum bourne of frustration and rage the like of which I've never encountered. Her screams are so loud and her ability to go on and on is so great that we capitulate pretty much every time and the net result is that she rules the roost and that's not how it should be.
If I'm honest it is really marring my time at home with her. I dread her tantrums and today I found it hard not to scream at her as she's been really bad recently. Whilst I know I will never hurt her my instinct to flip my lid and really yell back at her is so strong that it scares me.
The flip side to this is that when she's calm and happy she is utterly amazing. We've noticed that when she is given one to one attention then she's an angel, but as I'm at home alone with her and DD1 I can't give her that all the time and come the weekend I need some space from her so she ends up yelling at DH.
Does anyone else have experience of this? Anyone got any tips of how to cope with this because it's really getting us (esp me) down. Should I be worried?
Got to go, she's seen I'm on the computer and that's always a catalyst for a complete meltdown.
Sorry so long.
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Angry baby - is this normal? - long
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Pennies · 13/08/2007 17:01
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