Checking out her bits!!

[SusieR]

Hi,
My DD1 (2.11) has become very interested in her (how does one put this) front bottom. She was sitting next to me his afternoon, with no pants on because they come off all the time, and looking down at her herself and poking around.
I have no problem with her doing this as I understand its natural but how do you teach/explain that this is not the thing to be done in public to one so young. I don't want her to think its dirty.
Any advice?
Sue.

[BandofMothers]

Tell her she can do it in the bath or in bed, other wise she needs her knickers on.
At least that's what I told DD1 when she was exploring. She soon got bored of it tho.

[Elibean]

dd 3.5 sometimes fiddles absentmindedly whilst watching CBeebies.

I did ask her, when she was doing just that tonight (with knickers on), whether she had itchy or sore bits (she does get eczema there sometimes) and she replied, in an annoyed sort of way 'NO, Mummy, I LIKE touching there'

It wasn't exactly a public place, or very obvious, so I left the 'in private' talk for another time. But suppose I will say something along the lines of 'thats fine, if it feels good, but thats a private part of you so its best for you to touch it in private - when you're on your own.'

It does sound as though your dd is more curious about whats there, IYSWIM, than enjoying the feeling - if so, I personally wouldn't say anything at this point, just answer questions (as best you can ) if she asks any.

[samanthar]

ditto elibean here at 4 and a bit. i think its aphase and when asked o got the 'because i like it'a friend said the same and it tends to be when watching tv too

[andiem]

my ds did this too he told me that in the morning his willy felt all fizzy

[bubblagirl]

just remember they dont see it the same way that grown ups do and they dont understand the feeling either

just say that it is fine to do it but not when out as you say as they are private areas or just say she needs to try not to touch as it could get sore and encourage her to keep knickers on it is just a phase but when she does it just try to distract her out of it eventually she will stop