ds (2.4)is a rubbish eater and always has been. Despite us hoping that staying for his lunch at nursery with his friends every day would help, it hasn't, he's now been staying for lunch for nearly 3 months. He occasionally tries a bit of something but mostly eats absolutely nothing. And it's the same at home, he has had the same repertoire of about 4 foods for nearly a year and not all of them are as healthy as I would like! But he eats with his eyes, and if he doesn't recognise it he won't touch it. Have tried EVERYTHING. I put peas on his plate every day for 4 months. Still refuses to touch them. I disguise, mash, fold, tuck, blend, dip etc etc. Have tried proper meals, snack trays, grazing, eating on the hoof, TV, no TV, finger food, fork food, feeding himself, eating with him, giving from my plate...even working on the idea that children don't starve themselves (that was fun, he didn't eat anything for 4 days) Nothing works .
So... as he is now getting to the stage with his communication where I think he might be able to understand and respond I wondered about starting a star chart or similar. I thought I could award a red star for effort if he does anything that is a step up from the usual pushing the plate away and frantic head shaking, any positive reaction would earn a star. So, any trying of new food is rewarded with a red star and if he eats a few mouthfuls or more he gets a gold star. Stars add up to treats.
But typically I am now overanalysing and wondering if I am setting up a situation where he will expect rewards for doing things that are actually expected. Or am I just teaching him that hard work and effort earn rewards and nice things?
What do you all think of star charts? Is it a good incentive or the slippery slope to bribery and corruption? Is he too young? And is this making too much of an issue of the food thing? Is it bad bad bad to make food such an issue?
He starts preschool in Sept and will be having his lunches there, where they are expected to eat with the others. If he doesn't eat anything he will definitely not make it through the day!
Does anyone else have a child of this age that spends all day in a nursery type environment but eats pickily? Any thoughts?
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opinions please! should I use a star chart for a food issue?
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kitbit · 21/03/2007 12:45
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