Hi there ...
Need a bit of advice as I am not sure whether to be worried about my DS or not ...
DH and I have been working on DS' inability to accept games as just games ... for example, when he plays soccer on a Saturday morning (cute little five aside teams) he invariably throws a tantrum when he doesn't get a chance to score a goal ... none of the other children do this. It took a couple of weeks for him to want to take part at all (he said he was too shy) but now he loves playing but like I say, has these tantrums.
Another example: We had a friend round to play yesterday and he and DS started playing snakes and ladders. DS was determined to win and just could not accept it when his friend landed on a ladder or he landed on a snake. In the end he started cheating and turning the dice over so that he could get the right number to get to a ladder. When I told him he couldn't play like that he just lost it and we had the biggest wobbly EVER! I was quite embarrassed about it and the other little boy looked at DS like he had crawled from under a rock - needless to say we had to abandon the game and I sent them out into the garden to play football and that turned to custard too with DS screaming and shouting at his friend and then not letting his friend have the ball.
I went to speak to his kindergarten teacher today on another issue (DS came home with a big bruise on his shoulder that he said he got from another boy who hit him with a stick) and have come back wondering whether DS has a problem ...
She said that DS has a problem understanding 'pretend' and when the children play games outside (there is a little group of boys who play 'tag' and 'pokemon' together) DS invariably gets over excited, oversteps the boundaries and ends up either hitting or being hit. She says that when the games turn out like that they 'redirect' the boys to do other things but she said that DS is always in the middle of it.
Probably not relevant, but I am clutching at straws, I pointed out to her that DS has never watched Pokemon so probably doesn't understand the game ....
Anyway ... I am a bit upset about it to be honest ... he used to be such a sensitive and caring little boy ... when he first started Kindy he used to sit quietly with a book and a puzzle and now he runs around like a screaming banshee ...
At home his behaviour is on and off ... He attention seeks all the time even if he is having attention ... He winds his Dad up so much at the end of the day ... we are having night time troubles, he is scared of the dark and he just doesn't sleep enough which makes him very very tired and grumpy at the end of the day ....
I know there are loads of threads about the &%$&^% Fours ... I have posted on them before about DS ... and I know that the birth of his baby sister sent him into orbit a bit but I am beginning to wonder if we have something more worrying on our hands ...
Thanks for getting this far ...
Can anyone help?
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Ghosty · 15/06/2004 23:19
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