I'm just hoping for a bit of advice or reassurance about my boy, who'll be 4 at the end of the month. Since he was born I've been loosely keeping an eye out for signs of aspergers or similar as there's a lot of it in my male relatives, so I may well be reading too much into his behaviour.
He's a very bright boy (I know everyone on mumsnet seems to say that, but he really is), has been reading fluently for a while now, was counting quite early, good grasp of some of the more complicated children's games etc etc. He does have lots of energy and is very physical, he loves the preschooler sport club we signed him up to but it's difficult to get him to pay attention.
He's always been happy playing alongside others rather than with them, he'll then go home and talk about how much fun he had playing with his friends. He does play with other kids, but is often happier doing his own thing, even though he's always desperate to see people. In big groups it's especially noticeable, as he gets a bit nervous and would rather play on the edges than join in, at parties and suchlike.
The thing that gets DH is that he gets obsessed with certain tv programmes, characters, toys or games and will want to play them all the time. I think this is just how 3 year olds play, but he thinks we should be discouraging it. He also doesn't seem to be too creative, he'll get ideas for games from other children or things he's seen on tv, rather than inventing them from scratch himself.
I was talking to his preschool teacher earlier about his reading and she was saying how remarkable it was, and I said that I just hoped it wasn't a sign of anything else, and she said that actually she had noticed a few things and that she'd keep a closer eye on him and maybe we can talk about it. She's an experienced teacher and I guess I trust her judgement.
I guess my questions are, does this sound like he could be on the spectrum? If it does, how should we approach things like his obsessive playing and behaviour? I guess if it is, I want to make sure we can help him as early as possible, or not help him exactly, but know how to respond to him in a way that helps him understand other people and socialise, I would hope with early intervention we might be able to avoid the kind of experience my poor brother had growing up.
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ASD in almost 4 year old?
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Swearwolf · 20/09/2016 21:08
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