PLEASE HELP!
my son can be so aggressive and I just can't work out why. We had the educational psychologist at school because he lashed out at his friends randomly unprovoked they said he had low self esteem and we needed to boost confidence so we do a star chart and reward good behaviour and the teacher writes down the good things he's done.
We also make sure he gets plenty of one to one attention doing specific activities from me and his daddy so to rule out him lashing out for attention.
He's improved at school but he isn't the biggest fan of being there and hasn't made any close friends just children that tolerate him I think. Mainly girls that make a fuss of him.
He's had a rough start in year 1 so far socially but teacher says he's doing ok in class although academically he is behind but he's creative.
He screams ( and I mean screams!) when he's told off or not got his way we take toys away and do time out every time consistently but it just doesn't click. We also try to ignore the screams and cries so he doesn't see it as a way to get what he wants but some times we have to use distraction to calm him down like taking him outside.
He just now stroked the cat then just as she was getting comfortable with him he hit and squeezed her. I took away the toy he had so he pinched me.
He has suffered with constipation which is some what managed by movicol, but I'm not sure his behaviour is in sync with any pain as he's usually quiet and submissive when he's unwell.
Most family and friends critises me for not being tougher or even for doubting my own parenting skills but I just don't know what will work coz it seems as tho he isn't learning and I have no control he rarely does as he's told. He says he won't do bad things again but does it the next day or even within an hour. He's destructive and has a short attention span.
He's also still having occasional accidents (wetting) in the day and wears pull ups at night. I feel like I'm failing! Surely the only other thing would be for me to smack him and that is just teaching him that it's ok to hurt others! I don't agree with it but is that why my boy behaves the way he does? Need some support he's my first child and the whole parenting thing clearly hasn't come naturally to me!
Sorry it's long!
Any advice or experience would be helpful thank you
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5 year old aggression
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eddymum27 · 13/09/2016 20:12
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