My son is 6 and for years I've know there's something not quite mainstream/normal about him.
He is extremely clever and well behaved (I'm quite strict) and has met all his milestones, however, ever since he was 6 months old I've had worries with him:
He never made eye contact as a baby (still doesn't) and I have to remind him to look at me when talking
He NEVER babbled like babies do and was always just extremely quiet.
He never seemed to need or want much sleep as a baby or now.
Sleep is a major issue for us. He is well behaved and goes to bed fine most nights but seems to be distracted by everything/nothing (we have a great bedtime routine and do bedtime story - no screen time). He was up this morning after only having 8 hours and wakes everyone else up too (5am). He looks exhausted but never seems to be tired. He is also very active so I know it's not a case of tiring him out.
He is a very anxious child and seems to worry over the most bizarre things also.
He doesn't like to be touched or hugged much by anyone except parents - even grandparents!
He can't sit still, seriously, even at dinner time he waves an arm or 2 about or fidgets about on his seat - he seems unaware he does it, and unaware that he constantly makes noises too.
He can't be on his own, he can't even go upstairs without having someone be with him - even a younger sibling.
He can't talk to many people and meeting new people is awful and embarrassing. He seems to just make gestures and noises when people speak to him.
He seems to not understand about personal space and has always put things right in peoples face or stands too close and fidgets and touches people - I can see his peers noticing how annoying these things are now.
At school assemblies or anything where he has to sit or concentrate etc he fidgets with hands then just goes into this strange stare for the whole time, eyes fixed and glazed and mouth hanging open.
Really I need some advice, since he was a baby I've been fobbed off with 'he'll grow out of it', 'it will change when he starts nursery/school'... It hasn't. If anything, being around his peers has just affirmed how different he is.
Dr I saw when he was 3 was just patronising about it so I'm really stuck as to where to go next.
I love him but he is just too challenging and needy and disturbing everyone's sleep has to change as I have 2 younger children who he constantly wakes.
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Does my hard work 6yo have issues? HELP!
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Lindyloo17 · 29/05/2016 07:23
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