Our DD is four this month, she's the second of four littles, the fourth only being born two weeks ago.. They're all very close in age (5,4,2,nb) but the changes we've seen before baby was born.
Determined, wilful, and confident. But recently not in a positive way, she will point blank refuse to acknowledge when being spoken to, good or bad terms. She runs off if you try to talk to her (if in the middle of a sibling row) and will shout unkind things.
So we try to be calm, patient. Sometimes try making it fun (tidy up time) we've also tried the boundaries where we mean what we say, that if you've finished then pack away before starting something else. But she will not listen. It's been about a month, or so now, and I know a baby is a big change as we've done it four times now but it's quite soul destroying and we hate resorting to shouting as nothing else seems to work.
We believe in gentle methods but firm but sometimes it's as if her and older sister don't take us seriously sometimes.
Little things like leaving rubbish about when they don't see us doing that, when asked - it's unfair or a huge deal.
Same with toys. (We do need to downsize here though)
But with a newborn who is non stop feeding, a two year old who is double the amount of determined (who she clashes with sometimes) and a 5 yo who will see me lose my patience as soon as she's home from school I'm kind of feeling defeated!
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Almost 4yo fiery behaviour
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wildlingtribe · 04/05/2016 16:35
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