DD1 (9) is usually a 'good' child, well-behaved, conscientious, is not wilfully naughty although sometimes squabbles with her sister (6), perhaps more than usual in recent weeks. Lately she has been prone to bursting into tears if she's not getting her way on something, working herself up into such a state.. eg this morning she asked to ride her bike to school and I said no, we would scoot or walk (I'll admit I wasn't really thinking about it, just wanted to get us out of the door on time!)
Cue tears and sobbing almost immediately and continuing for the next half an hour, until I'm sitting outside the school with her, trying to get her to calm down enough to actually go inside. Eventually the school secretary had to pull her away so I could make a dash for the door. By then she didn't want to go to class because she was so self-conscious about how she looked and the fact that everyone would know she'd been crying - she was basically begging me to take her home.
I had to stand my ground - it was a stupid argument because really she could have cycled but it escalated quickly and once she starting going off on one I couldn't just give in. I stayed calm (it was v hard!) and tried to reason with her, distract her, change the subject, make a deal about letting her cycle tomorrow but she just couldn't get past that very moment - 'I want to cycle now, not later, you always do what DD2 wants, you never do what I want etc etc'...
As I say this is not typical behaviour from her but is the latest of a handful of these types of episodes and I don't really know what to do. Is this normal pre-teen stuff? Hormones? Is she needing more independence or control over her choices? She's quite an 'internal' child, a bit introverted like me, and I'm worried this is signalling a deeper anxiety, but I really hope I'm reading too much into it. Any advice or experience would be much appreciated.
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9yo 'tantrums' - is this normal?
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BaryMerry · 21/04/2016 12:52
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