2yo sleep

[littleraysofsunshine]

I've posted before but can't find it..

He was 2 in Jan, and for months he will not stay in his bed.

Goes to sleep at the same time as sisters (5&3), but still wakes once a night, either shouts/talks for us to get him, or just gets up and comes in.

We're so tired that we just let him in but it's really not benefitting any of us. I'm due in 5 weeks with dc4 and not getting sleep as it is but sometimes it seems the easy option to save him waking the other two but then it's also too much now.

It's got harder each time believe it or not.

I just don't want us being moody, then being moody, a waking newborn. Everyone is so tired at the moment.

We've tried sitting with him but just letting him in seemed easier at the time. We have never CIO.

We put him in with big sisters which helped for about two weeks, then it's been this for about four months. Maybe he senses baby coming, or just need to try him in his own room again? It's obviously comfort, they've all had a phase like this but DD2 and him have been the hardest to sleep when it can be tricky.

[littleraysofsunshine]

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[winchester1]

Does he still nap in the day? Time to drop or reduce that maybe.

[littleraysofsunshine]

He could have no nap or 1-2 hours. It makes no difference what so ever.

[JuxtapositionRecords]

Can you try a reward chart?

[littleraysofsunshine]

He's just two... I don't think he would get it.

[JuxtapositionRecords]

Mine understood reward charts at 2 - I used them for things like teeth brushing etc. Literally just a sticker on a bit of paper - tell him he sleeps well he gets a sticker. When he wakes up remind him about the sticker.

Worth a go? Most kids will do anything for a sticker

[littleraysofsunshine]

He literally has no interest in them.

Tonight I've just sat next to him for 30mins while he went back off in his bed but I shall see how long for....

[winchester1]

It took over a week of reduced / dropped naps to make a difference to nights with my kids.
We tried reward charts and gloclocks but they didn't help so young.

[littleraysofsunshine]

We have tried weeks of each. No difference at all.

Yes he has no interest in stickers or rewards as such

[ThirtyNineWeeks]

Let him cry it out. Problem solved in three nights max.

[winchester1]

How many kid have you got 39weeks - lots of screaming kids is no answer to sleep and thats where CIO got me 2nd time round

[winchester1]

Oh and3 mights max - are you sure about tjat

DC1, 6 months abosulty . DC2 several times over 3-6 nigts eerytime still not really sleep trainned at 1yr

[littleraysofsunshine]

We've never done CIO. Doesn't solve anything especially in the long run. Each child is different especially siblings...

He still has lots more teeth to come yet too!

[newhairdontcare]

We have a similar issue, no answer though. I am considering a gro clock but not sure our 2 year old will understand it. When he wakes he does back to bed pretty well, but some nights he can wake up to 6/7/8 times, so I am exhausted from broken sleep. The next night he might only wake once, often before we are in bed. It's so random. We are trying not to let him in our bed as we know it will be worse long term but it is so tempting, especially if I have work the next day.

Sorry, no real advice other than persevere with back to bed. Can your partner take over at weekends so you get some rest?

[Ooof35]

Honestly- put him in a travel cot or the cot he was in previously before his bed and be stern that when he wakes up, he stays where he is until he drifts back off. Try playing lullabies on a loop in his room as cue for sleep.
Go back to basics and shush / pat / whatever works getting him to sleep.

Once you've reset his sleep pattern, give him a good few months to settle.

Then try the bed again, although with a bed guard and a gate in his bedroom door. It's hard work but it will teach him where he needs to stay during the nighttime. It sounds like a security thing and securing the space around him will help. Check out the book "Toddler Taming". They really do need to know their boundaries...and everybody sounds shattered. No good for anybody.

[littleraysofsunshine]

Well dp just doesn't seem to be helping by not trying to pat him back to sleep in his bed like I do.

Last night he also fell asleep on the sofa so I was up and out the bed four times (nearly 37weeks pregnant with spd)

[littleraysofsunshine]

I'm literally going to be a sardine when baby arrives. Toddler in the other side.

[LouTheMac]

Hi there
Sympathise with your situation as our 2.8 year old comes in with us every night. We do not have any other children though.
I don't think you are going to be able to fix this anytime soon with everything you have going on but I wonder if you put a mattress down on your floor and try & redirect him to that so he is at least not in your bed?
I am thinking of doing this now as my DS is huge and kicks etc and i feel shattered.

[Helsbellsnch34]

How are you getting on? We're going through this with our 22 month old (also have ds 4 and ds 10 weeks), big boys share and ds 2 is in his cot still. In the run up to new baby we just let him in with us as we were exhausted. Things came to a head last week, I was sardined between toddler and baby, other half turfed out of bed by ds 2 who wouldn't let him near me in bed, and ds 2 trying to lie on ds 3 we put a single mattress by the cot and are taking it in turns to sleep next to him. He is waking up 1-2 times a night and settled in 20 mins max as he is feeling more secure. Hoping to extract the mattress within a month. At the very least we are all getting some sleep! Feeling your pain and hoping it all passes soon.