So my daughter is going to be 4 next week. She's had some strange behaviours since she was about 2/3 and it's really getting me concerned. She can't be her own self! She copies her 5 year old sister for EVERYTHING!
If her sister is wearing a skirt for school/nursery she has to! She has to wear the same cardigan everyday (one with a school logo) and gets upset if it's in the wash and has to wear a different one. She has to wear certain shoes/ boots and if you say no you can't wear them for nursery she will get really upset and refuse to leave the house. She is really difficult to soothe because if something has upset her she will just cry and winge and it's difficult to get her to calm down. I have to cover up her every night with her blanket, if I say no Mummy is busy right now can you please put on your own cover she will kick off and will not go to sleep, she has to have this routine every night!!!
When I ask the kids to choose a treat ( usually some chocolate) she will look after her 5 year old sister first to see what she's choosing and will the choose exact same as her! I have 4 daughters and I have noticed how different my 4 year old is to them with these funny behaviours. It's worrying me. She couldn't socialise with other kids on our street before she started nursery and really struggled with it and would hide away from visitors in our house. Since being in nursery she has improved on this and has made about 2 friends in nursery but isn't very talkative. She's beer reserved and quite in class and only speaks to the teacher 'on occasion' and usually she has to be encourage to take during group time ect.
I've seen the GP who referred her to the community Paediatrician and she's said that her development is on track so no concerns there but she will get a report from nursery to see how she is. I've not heard anything else from them and nursery hasn't mentioned anything to me.
It's just getting me stressed. I'm normally very patient with her because I know she's a bit 'different' and i can clearly see it's not her fault and she's not naughty, she's a lovely very well behaved girl but she just has these little anxieties and I don't know what's causing it but I don't think it's normal. I did get stressed the other say though before nursery because she was struggling with the straps in her shoes so I asked her to let me help but she REFUSED to let me help her even though she was clearly struggling so became quite a battle
Would be grateful if anyone could give me advise
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is this normal for a 3-4 year old. Strange behaviours worrying me!
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sammyjayneex · 11/02/2016 09:49
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