20 month old screaming as soon as she wakes.

[Chloeisobelle21]

It doesn't matter what I do, I can give her books and toys and she still screams until I get up in the morning. I'm pregnant and can't get out of bed quickly as it is and I want to go to the toilet and get milk ready in peace! Not have to deal with a screaming toddler first thing every morning. It's the most stressful wake up call

[WinterIsNeverReallyComing]

Sorry if you've already thought of this but is there any chance she's still tired? My two both wake up crying if they're tired but happy as anything when they've had enough sleep.

[Chloeisobelle21]

She goes to bed at 7 and wakes at half 9 lol. So I don't think so. It's starting to grind on me and I find myself being snappy in the mornings with her because it's so unnecessary

[ppeatfruit]

Of course it necessary ' she's starving!! It's low blood sugar!!! Everyone would be hungry and thirsty after all that sleep!!!!

Why not give her a bottle of something in her cot or where she can reach it outside the cot to keep her going at bedtime, so you don't have to make her something immediately in the morning, or get her up immediately and give her some a banana, toast ot a rusk or something with a cup of water, or a piece of fruit.

[babyboomersrock]

Sorry, OP, but 9.30 isn't "first thing".

Why don't you get up earlier and get her breakfast ready - and then wake her up? As the pp said, she must be very hungry after 14.5 hours' sleep.

[NickNacks]

I want to go to the toilet and get milk ready in peace!

So get up earlier! A 9.30sm lay in every morning and your still moaning, how are you going to manage a baby crying too at an even early hour?!

[ppeatfruit]

Yes Nicknacks And what will you do Chloe when you have to get them up and out for school for before 9am ?!!!!!

[Chloeisobelle21]

Wow. I didn't post this to be had a go at? I'm a single mum, I have no help and I'm exhausted by bed time so the extra lay in is sometimes appreciated! I have been suffering with extreme morning sickness as well. I'm stunned at these replies I really am...

[Chloeisobelle21]

I don't have a 9.30 lay in every morning. It differes most mornings. This morning was 9.30. I think some of you need to wind your necks in a bit!

[ppeatfruit]

Well you wanted advice and you've got it! It's about the baby isn't it? and as I said she's hungry. My dd2 used to cry after a 2 hour nap in the afternoon with low blood sugar level let alone after all that sleep

[Chloeisobelle21]

There are nicer and more mature ways of giving someone advice. Not bashing someone who's just asking for advice. I thought this site was a little different than that

[Chloeisobelle21]

I'll delete the post. Shocked at the attitudes of some women

[babyboomersrock]

OP, what did you want us to say? If your toddler was waking during the night, or sleeping for only 6 hours a night, for example, I'm sure you'd be getting lots of advice.

However, she is sleeping more than 12 hours a night, which is far more than many toddlers do. You can't really expect her to lie quietly in her cot when she wakes, as well as sleeping for up to 14 hours. It isn't fair on her.

Many of us on here are parents, and many will be single parents, so you'll find support when you need it - but you really need to get this sorted before the new baby arrives.

If you're in early pregnancy at the moment (I'm just assuming that from the morning sickness, but I know it can persist), you need to plan how you'll cope later on when you're getting heavier/less mobile.

Are you newly single? Are you at home all day, or do you go out to work? I'd prioritise getting some support - even if it's just making friends locally - before the new baby arrives.

[slightlyconfused85]

Hi OP. My dd always woke up in a mood until she was about 2 and a half. She was hungry and had spent 12 hours in bed on her own so wanted to see someone and eat! I would just try have some food and milk ready and give it straight to her - she will calm down soon enough.

No need for posters to have a go at OP- she was asking what to do about the screaming not complaining about her dds sleep. She doesn't deserve screechy mornings just because her child sleeps well.

[ICanSeeForMiles]

My ds did this every morning up until he was 4, and that was anytime from 6-7. Screamed the place down. If I could have predicted what time he'd be up, I'd have set my alarm earlier, it's the most stressful thing to deal with as soon as you open your eyes. However 9.30 would be a blessing.
He eventually grew out of it, btw. thank fuck

[gandalf456]

She might well be hungry, in which case, maybe leave a small snack by her bed to stave off the worst hunger pangs so that she doesn't scream. However, I think OP is perfectly justified in not liking it and looking for a way for it to stop. My DD used to do this and it drove me bonkers. I think hunger featured in it but she was and still is a child who likes a lot of attention and, boy, did she learn how to get it fast. What OP doesn't want is to develop a habit where her DD screams and feels compelled to run to resolve it straight away. It does no harm whatsoever to teach children to wait 5 or 10 minutes to be attended to - even at this age.

[DIYandEatCake]

Is she still in a cot with sides on? My two kids were both loads happier when I took a side off - instead of screaming they just toddled through to find me. I wished I'd done it sooner! (about 21 months for dd and 16 months for ds)

[gandalf456]

Good point. I forgot to ask that