DS, almost four, refuses to get himself dressed or undressed or put on/take off his shoes. However, he does now do it at nursery so it isn't an issue with ability rather he refuses to do it for us.
His nursery are aware that he won't put his shoes on at home and they said yesterday that he had refused to get changed for PE for them. He had excitedly begun getting undressed then switched and refused to do anymore so sat in his pants and didn't participate. He only put his trousers and shoes back on when lunch was served.
His nursery worker said I need to challenge his 'stubbornness' and insist he does it himself.
His shoe came off in the park and I calmly said he must put it back on himself. He began crying and wailing and asking me to do it. I kept encouragingly saying, no you can do it. It became a full on melt down. Over a shoe. And it was then me vs him with stubbornness. Who could insist the other put the shoe on the longer. And of course he won. Refused to even pull the Velcro over once I'd put the shoe on.
I have no idea how to manage this other than to meet his stubbornness with stubbornness myself? I've previously been into cajoling, or sharing the job ie he does he Velcro. But if he can physically do it, what can I do?
Nursery are clearing getting them 'school-ready' with the whole getting dressed for PE but for DS that's a whole year away. But it sounds like it's only DS who has the issue with it.
Gah I don't know what to do.
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ALickAndAPromise · 01/10/2015 09:45
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