Please tell me it isn't just me!!

[birchykel]

I'm so very drained!
I have a 12 and 4 year old. Both girls.
One hormonal and one having tantrums constantly!
I've done reward charts, give the count to 3 or on the stairs. It doesn't seem to work!
My 12 year old has such bad attitude and seem to think she can parent the 4 year old and even tell me 'no' if I ask her to do something.
I've been on here before asking for advice but I've had to post again as I just don't know what to do.
Thing is if it was someone else's children I would know what to say and do!
Always the way I guess. I'm fed up its a daily battle and I feel like I am being crushed.
My youngest is hard work and can understand the frustration for my eldest. I just wish I could get on top of my 4 year olds behaviour. She starts school tomorrow so hope that helps
anyone else going through this?

[birchykel]

Sounds like my four year old. She had half a day at school today and came home with a reading book and can now read it and she was so happy! But again tantrums city here!
I think ur right though my girl is bright and quite forward so think school will help. Just draining at times

[Ledkr]

I have the same age gap 13 and 4 both dds, life can at times Beverly trying but they are good kids really.
4 yr old just needs constant exercise and stimulation and 13 yr olds attitude needs to be ignored whenever possible.
As I typed this I shouted at dd1