DD is 6. She is challenging in many ways. She has always been challenging at bedtime, and even as a baby used to lie awake in her cot for hours gurgling until 9.30 or 10. At the moment she is allowed to read until approximately 8pm and then lights off. Whereupon begins a 2 hour saga of ups and downs, needing wees, drinks, loud declarations that sleep is boring etc etc.
If you leave her to turn her light out when she is ready she just doesn’t do it. She doesn’t seem to be able to stop. She reads very quickly, finishes one book, hops out of bed for another and so it goes on. We have tried letting her go to sleep when she is ready but after a week of her going to sleep past 11 and increasingly vile behaviour we stopped.
If one of us sits with her until she goes to sleep she gets very angry and resentful. But if you don’t sit with her if she’s not reading she’ll be rolling around in the bed humming loudly (her interpretation of being quiet!). When she does go to sleep she sleeps straight through the night.
I tried “Sitting Still Like a Frog” tonight after someone recommended it. It is a mindfulness book/CD with a going to sleep relaxation exercise. You have to focus on your busy thoughts and then redirect your attention to your calm belly where there are no thoughts. She listened, and then 5 minutes later appeared saying “Mummy some thoughts have got into my belly and I don’t know what to do” in an incredibly sarcastic tone….
I am very anxious that she does get enough sleep as her behaviour is very bad at school and worse if she hasn’t had enough sleep. But equally I have this sense that it is a power struggle I can’t “win”. Am slightly at wits end.
Has anyone taken a decision to let their DC find their own sleep patters and how long did it take to work?
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lostforinspiration · 03/06/2015 21:36
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