I have a 3 year old boy who is very strong willed. Sometimes when he wants to do something, he will do it, no matter what form of discipline I try.
As an example getting him dressed in a morning is very difficult. He will refuse to get dressed and runs away to another part of the house. It can take twenty minutes to get him fully dressed because after every item of clothing he does a runner and I have to chase him round the house.
I've been looking at a few parenting books and I've tried their various strategies but nothing seems to make a difference.
I've tried the 'Spirited Child' approach of sympathising with his unwillingness to get dressed, getting down to his level, suggesting ways he could help to get himself dressed etc etc. He isn't interested.
I've tried the stricter approach and have tried putting him in a time out. Sometimes this upsets him and he says sorry, but he will do the exact same thing a minute later. Other times he isn't remotely bothered by the time out and I think he'd sit there for an hour if I let him.
I've tried explaining to him that by not getting dressed he is working against his own interest and won't get to go out (in toddler friendly terms obviously). It doesn't work.
I get a similar sort of pattern in other situations. We had a meal out the other day and he refused to sit down at the table. He wanted to run around. We hadn't been served yet so I tried the spirited child approach and took him into the restaurant garden, which was empty, to run around. This wasn't good enough for him and wanted to run around back and forth to the table. I tried taking him to one side and calmly explaining why he couldn't do that. It made no difference. I tried putting him in a time out but he didn't care.
I need some new ideas about how to handle him when he is in this state of mind.
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I need a strategy to deal with strong willed 3yo
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Somanyrewardpoints · 29/05/2015 23:29
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