dd is 3 and is so rough with other children it's really getting me down and I often feel like I mishandle situations and spend a lot of time dwelling and worrying over how ive dealt with the things she does.
We were at a play group this morning and she was being fairly rough with a 6 mth old but was trying to cuddle and be nice. It wasn't malicious at all. I was telling her to be gentle and trying to distract by giving her dolls and pushchairs etc but she was having none of it so I said to the mum just tell her, I don't mind so the other mum was saying be gentle darling, gentle hands etc.
Then she went up to a little girl who was standing on a platform and grabbed her and pulled her off down to the floor and the little girl really took a tumble. All the mums stopped and gasped and ran over.
I grabbed dd and took her away to tell her off, made her go and apologise, I apologised to the mum then left immediately to teach her a lesson.
She was saying sorry all the way home and said but mummy I was just trying to cuddle her which made me feel so bad. As she probably was just trying to cuddle her but didn't understand the consequence of her roughness.
This isn't the first time something like this has happened. She pushed a boy down the stairs at a play date recently. Total nightmare but the boy was amazingly uninjured. I left in tears with all the what ifs.
I just don't know how to deal and cope with her roughness with other children. I've lost friends over it. People we were seeing who just never contacted me again because I spent the whole time telling my dd not to grab and push their children. I know it's normal for this age but it just feels so intense and scary. I never know what she's going to do to someone next.
I'm having this very same issue with another friend whose son my dd manhandles and makes him cry. I discussed it with her and asked if she wanted to take a break on the meet ups for a while and she said no he needs to learn to be more assertive and tell her when he doesn't like what she's doing.
I'm so down about it. I just don't know what to do to get her to stop touching other children in such a rough and heavy handed way.
More than that, I don't know the best way to discipline it without making a big scene like I did today. Leaving in such an uncivilised way with a screaming tantruming toddler because she didn't want to go. I don't know if I did the right thing
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My toddler is so rough
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LittlePink · 20/05/2015 11:49
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