Is this normal experimental/sexual behaviour in Y6, or is it odd?

[JPeterman]

DS has told me that a boy (who he dislikes) is very sexual with a girl in his class. He lies on top of her and 'does stuff' and he gropes her. I think the groping is over the top of clothes but is sexual as in he gropes her breasts and vagina. (she doesn't have breasts as such, she's quite a skinny kid)

Writing it down makes it seem much worse.

Ds says the girl screams but I definitely think its consensual. This happens at playtime and they sneak of without the teachers knowing. DS is adamant that the staff are unaware, but they would be in trouble if they got caught. He says nobody will tell because it's so embarrassing. DS really doesn't like the boy so likes to paint him in a negative light.

I remember people having boyfriends/girlfriends and doing a bit of snogging in year 6/7 but this seems to be basically dry humping.

So is this something the school should be made aware of, or is this normal 'kids experimenting' stuff that I should keep my beak out of? (DS is my eldest and quite a 'young' 11)

[ClashCityRocker]

There is always an element of natural curiosity but I think this goes beyond it.

Also, at eleven, I don't think it can be consensual, but I take your point.

If this was your daughter, would you want the teacher to be aware?

[Redlocks28]

Gropes her vagina?!

[ouryve]

I think it's more than curiosity. You need to phone the school.

[JPeterman]

DS said 'touches her there' and patted his balls. Then he squirmed his way under the kitchen table and I'm reluctant to press it further with him.

I get your point about consent. She 'goes with him willingly' is probably a better way to put it.

If it was my dd I would want to know. If it was me....I would die of embarrassment. But when I was doing that kind of stuff I was probably 3 years older, and it was with other girls so didn't seem 'as bad'

[bigTillyMint]

I also think you need to phone the school. It is a safe-guarding issue.

Be prepared for your DS (and others) to be questioned as they will need to ascertain what he has seen happening.

[JPeterman]

I suppose if i lay it at the door of the school then they can keep an eye and then do something if they think they need to.

Ds really hates this kid but I don't think it's made up, or even exaggerated because it's too cringey.

[ClashCityRocker]

A quiet word with the teacher would be a good course of action, I think. They may be able to resolve the matter discreetly - whilst keeping an eye on the lad as over-sexual behaviour can be a warning sign.

[bigTillyMint]

Yes, it is definitely an issue that the school should deal with. ASAP.

[JPeterman]

I'd rather do it face to face than on the phone so I'll say something when I go in next week, right before that Marian Mass

Thanks