I'm after a bit of perspective here. I have 2 DC - DS is 6 and DD is 2.5. I bath them together still which they enjoy and they get on very well in general.
However, over the past few weeks my DS has been taking a bit more interest in the physical differences between them and there have been a couple of times recently that he has sneakily making contact with her private parts. For instance, last week they were sat at opposite ends of the bath with their legs stretched out and I hadn't realised that under the bubbles he had put his toes between her legs. He giggled about it and said "Mummy, my toes are touching [DD's] lady bits". I didn't make a big deal out of it but told him firmly not to do that as those are her private parts and nobody is allowed to touch them because they are private. This is something I have tried to teach them both from an early age and he is well aware that this is unacceptable.
However, yesterday they were messing about in the bath and DS cuddled DD and DD pulled away suddenly and wide-eyed said "[DS] touched my lady bits with his fingers. He's not allowed. They're private". I was crosser this time and once again told him firmly that this was not acceptable and I removed him from the bath and sent him to his room. I later had a chat with him about it and reinforced the message that nobody is allowed to touch our private parts apart from parents and doctors if there is a reason for it, and that likewise he is not allowed to touch anyone else's private parts because they are private. He knows this and he understands this.
My thoughts are that even though I know it's just his innocent natural curiosity, I need to end their bathtimes together to protect my daughter. Am I right? I had thought I probably had a good couple of years more of bathing together and it makes me a bit sad as they do love their bathtimes together. But this is the right thing to do right?
For a bit of context, I am someone who was abused by a close family member as a child so this is something that I am very conscious/paranoid about.
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CoffeeChocolateWine · 01/03/2015 17:46
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