Need help coping with ds's not naughty but challenging behaviour please!

[Charleesunnysunsun]

DS has just turned 2 and for the last week or two his behavious has been dramatically changed.

He's not being naughty, no disobeying or violence ect but his behaviour is quite a challenge.
He has become insanley clingy to me, he is fine when i drop him off at playschool and goes to bed wonderfully but as soon as im around, when i pick him up from school ect he holds my hand and wont let it go. He wont do anything without me this includes playing, eating, even walking across a room i have to hold his hand. This isn't like him at all he has a major melt down if i let go of him even long enought to open a door or something like that, its not a tantrum but actual wracking sobs and tears.

He also will NOT eat or drink anything, i have been talking to parents who worry becuase there kids will only eat one thing or another ds literally wont eat anything. He lives off 2 bottles of full fat milk a day one for naps and one for bed time. He will eat nothing for days on end and when he does it's yoghurt or soup or something he doesnt have to work to eat, he does TRY to eat but as soon as lumps hit the back of his throat he heaves everything back up.

He isn't loosing wieght or anything but he used to eat everything and anything and spent all day eating. I am wondering if he has a problem with his tonsils?
He wont drink anything and refuses any drinks i offer.

I know i shouldnt stress but it does worry me, hes under a consultant anyway as he has had a few siezures and has an asthma type problem.

He's very clumsy and his head is covered in bruises im worrying that not only is he ill but if he starts loosinf wieght and behaving strangley there going to think somethings not right at home.

[JiminyCricket]

Sounds like he might be worried or anxious about something? I think some of the sure start centres are supposed to give parents help with dealing with issues like this aren't they? If you have a good relationship with his consultant or your GP then maybe ask him and he might be able to refer you for some advice? At the end of the day if you're worried then you need some support with it. Sorry nothing more useful to say.

[Sunnysideup]

if it's only the last week or two, it could even be that he is going down with or fighting off a virus or two! Or teething - don't the big back teeth come around this age? I definitely found my ds was super-clingy when he was under par or teething........

Maybe take him to the dr to just check about his lack of eating,get them to have a look at his throat to set your mind at rest; but I did wonder if his gagging might be because his body 'forgets' the confidence to deal with lumps if he goes for days with only liquids...