Hello everyone,
I am seeking advice regarding my four year old who is exhibiting very aggressive behaviour, at school in particular.
We had an issue with physical aggression and not listening at nursery that the educational psychologist put down to being ' a phase' and the head teacher suggested most of the kids 'act up' when they are due to start big school.
As soon as the six weeks holiday started my child was considerably calmer and much happier. She was able to concentrate on tasks and we saw very little aggression.
She has recently started big school which she was excited about and she does enjoy going. However, the aggressive behaviour has come back and has escalated.
She has only been there a week and a half and has already had to be excluded from the playground play times due to her aggression and the behaviour is now spilling into class.
When asked she says she doesn't want to hit but does it because she is angry.
When asked what makes her angry she says she doesn't know.
Aside from the aggression she is a wonderful child who I am complemented upon. She shows great empathy for children younger or smaller than her and really has a knack for making friends wherever she goes.
She is bright, creative and loves making little gifts for friends and family.
It is just this aggression that is baffling me.
At home it is a different story. She takes awhile to diffuse from school but does not hit, scratch, kick etc at home and is always finding pictures to paint or books to read.
School are implementing a reward system to encourage good behaviour as this is something we do at home that works and the head teacher has requested to see me next week to discuss ways of supporting my child.
I'm very tempted to withdraw my child and home school as it seems all formal education has taught her is how to fight and scream.
I was home schooled so appreciate the benefit one on one attention can bring but I also want to get to the route of the aggression so am mindful not to make any knee-jerk reactions.
I do think my child would thrive from being taught at home as she is just beautiful when in a calm environment with lots of encouragement.
Sorry for the essay! All input appreciated.
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4 year old extremely aggressive at school but an angel at home
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CerealThriller · 17/09/2014 10:04
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