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[Pitchounette]

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[Elibean]

dd had a few mini-tantrums at around that age, and I would just sit quietly beside her. Sometimes I would lift her to a safe place (ie carpet or rug) first. No eye contact, no reaction, but not leave her alone either - she seemed too young for that, and I could see she had no control over herself anyway so it wouldn't have felt appropriate. I think in her case they were a mix of teething and coming up to milestones in development - nothing like the deliberate 'want my own way' moodies (she's not done full blown tantrums since) that my now-2.9-yr-old is capable of
Just seeing her through them without reacting seemed to calm her, and they lasted a really short time - good luck!

[Pitchounette]

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[Elibean]

Ah! In that case, I would ignore and walk away as consistently as possible. Remove the audience. Though I wouldn't be surprised if you said you had already tried that....sorry not to have more to offer, am sure some of the more tantrum-experienced will!

Incidentally, 'Pitchounette' is what my uncle used to call me when I was little - are you French, by any chance?

[Pitchounette]

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[poppiesinaline]

My DS1 started tantrums at 11 months, fortunately, he was my first so I didnt have to cope with dealing with any other children at the time. There has been loads of threads on here about little ones starting the tantrum stage early.

I would try to head off any tantrums if you see them coming on -ie distraction. Dont give in to any tantrums though - you will just be feeding the next. And ignore, ignore and ignore but make sure that when he calms down you turn your attention to him and give him a big cuddle. Sometimes DS1 got so beside himself that putting him in his cot was the only thing to do until he calmed down - to keep himself safe and any others near him (head butting and biting). hth

[poppiesinaline]

another thought... is he worse some days and not others? I know DS1 was particularly sensitive to E numbers and that would make him worse. I am not suggesting you feed your lo junk btw!! I was surprised at what food contained E numbers and the most seemingly 'benign' stuff seemed to trigger him - and then I would look on the packaging and be . It may be worth keeping an eye out and see if he is worse after certain foods and not others. Just a thought.

[kittywits]

yep, removing the audience is goo. You can't carry on an effective tantrum if no one is taking any notice

[Pitchounette]

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[ggglimpopo]

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[Pitchounette]

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[Elibean]

Bon courage! Et I agree, ignoring is the only way I know. But I would think of it as calming down time, not any sort of punishment...just a way to help ds2 manage his emotions. And if you are not comfortable walking out of the room, you can stay in the room and ignore. Then give a big cuddle and lots of praise for calming down.

[kittywits]

I would be near by so that I could keep and ear open, but I wouldn't give eye contact and I would carry on doing other things which would mean moving around from room to room. You don't have to be physically absent to remove yourself as an audience.

[Elibean]

Exactement.

[Pitchounette]

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