This is going to probably make no sense at all, but might help me to get it down and see if there is anything I could/should be doing...
DD is 3yrs, our only child (and is very likely to stay that way for lots of reasons), and when with us and close family she's fun, chatty, active, affectionate, actually hilariously funny, and very affectionate etc.
She just sometimes seems a bit anti-social with other kids. Nursery (where she is 2 days per week, the rest GP care, DH & I work FT) describe her as one of the quiet ones, which is not what she is at home, although they always say they've had a lovely day and she has done loads of things. I have no concerns about the nursery per se, but since she has moved to the pre-school room she does comment about it being very busy and noisy, and I think she is a bit of a wallflower when she is there, although she skips happily up the path when we go.
She has probably two 'close' friends, one who she really just latched onto herself and we now see him sometimes outside of nursery, and one which was more because me and other girl's mum are good friends so my DD has known her a long time and we've had holidays together. Her other nursery 'friends' she just seems to be a bit meh about and doesn't seem to mix all that well. She had a party for her 3rd birthday and invited about 10 kids from nursery, and we see some of them around the village/park etc. at weekend quite a lot, and she does warm up to them if we spend say more than 10 minutes with them, but she can be a bit stand-offish when we first meet them, and I have to really encourage 'say hello to Oliver' etc....
Also if e.g. we are at the park and some other kid pushes her out of the slide queue, she just runs back to me, and then won't go on the slide again all day, even if naughty pushing in kid has gone away.
I don't even know what my concern is really, I am just conscious there is a year until she goes to school and I feel like she is maybe not doing that great at the social side of things with other children.
Having said that, she is great with the two close friends she has, and we just went on holiday with some friends who have a 4yr old and 6yr old and they all got on like a house on fire.
I suppose my question is this: anyone had a child who was a bit of a wallflower who still coped well on starting school, and came out of themselves a bit, and is there anything I can do to help/support her in gaining confidence? Is she just too young to be having any more 'deep' friendships than the ones she has?
D (expert at worrying about nothing at all)
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3yr old DD 'one of the quiet ones' long & rambling...
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Deliaskis · 25/07/2014 13:39
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