fel like a failure

[magic5]

my ds2 decided tonight whilst i was the phone to a cousin to grab some eggs out the fridge and throw them an his bedroom window onto next doors sunroom.i found out when i came off the phone and my dd told me .ive grounded him and his brother(im sure he encouraged him to)for the rest of the month and told them tomorrow they go round and say sorry and give them money for it to be window cleaned .the neighbour understandable is not happy and now wont let 16 yr old daughter babysit 4 me sat(i normally pay her )for my twins whilst i meetup withn uncle i havent seen for 30 years has he livesin new zealnd.im suppose 2 b going out for a family reunion meal.the twins fight so i dont tend to take them out together.my exhusband has the two lder boys but just about manages them without putting ds3 into it as well.i feel my sons should be able to behave dispite their conditions whilst im on the phone im so angry with them right now.i feel this makes me look like a bad parent.

[handlemecarefully]

How old are the boys?

I think this is just childish 'high jinxs' and you shouldn't be hard on yourself as a parent. Kids will be kids sometimes. Is this one off behaviour on their part?

Think the neighbour is being a little harsh - given that you have instructed your boys to go around and apologise and to pay for the cleaning costs

[magic5]

they are seven and nearly nine.they have problem sleeping since they were babies.nothing like this has happened before and thats the least my boys can do for the neighbours after doing that.i feel this reflects me has a parent making me look bad.they had been sent to bed and they did this.my cousin is in ireland and ive only just got 2 know her.this was about eight pm whilst i was on phone to her.

[handlemecarefully]

"nothing like this has happened before"

• they are not 'bad lads' - this is a one off. Don't beat yourself up, you are not a bad parent.
  
  Talk to your neighbour tomorrow when she has calmed down...she'll probably reconsider about the babysitting. I hope so any way!

[magic5]

thanks for listening its just been a bad day and this topped it off.i hope she let her babysit has ive no one else has you can read im only just discovering my family.

[handlemecarefully]

No problem. I hope you sort it out