My dd is in the process of chucking another huge tantrum! We were alying on the sofa, all cuddled up and having a nice conversation. DD was telling me that she is going to do painting and play with her friends when she goes to nursery next week, and then she rolled off the sofa, and started kicking, screaming and wailing on the living room floor.
It seemed to me that the tantrum was simply over nothing! I hate these tantrums, when you can't see a reason for them and they are getting more and more frequent. It's really getting me down, to the point where I'm beginning to wonder why I even bothered having her. She was unplanned, dh and I had only been together 3 months before I fell pregnant and we are both really struggling with the behavioural issues.
I know it's a stage. I've worked in toddler rooms where you can have 2 or 3 toddlers all having a tantrum at the same time, but it really is so much harder when it is happening to your own child.
Watching Supernanny last night, DH and I discussed the 'naughty step' idea. I don't agree with them or with labelling a child as naughty, but I do agree that time out could be an effective way of dealing with some of her behaviour. We have discussed this yesterday and have decided to try and introduce time out, by taking her away from the TV and her toys. We're thinking that the hallway will be a good place for this to take place because there really is nothing out there for her to do.
The tantrum has been going on for nealry 2 hours now and I'm slowly losing my patience. I have ignored it for this long, simply typing away on the computer or staring at the TV. I'm trying hard not to even look at her, because then she will know that she is getting a reaction from me, and this is the last thing I want!
I currently have a kidney infection, so my back is killing me and whereas I would normally stick her in her bedroom to scream the place down, I can't physically lift her today, let alone deal with the kicking and punching as I attempt to, so I'm stuck here watching and listening to her.
At the moment she is screaming and throwing all the clean washing around the floor, emptying my cupboards and generally being a bitch. She has emptied a whole tube of sun cream all over the floor and is now scribbling in it, whilst smearing itover her face. If I could pinpoint a reason as to why this particular tantrum started, then I think I would be able to manage it a bit better. My hand is itching to slap her, but I don't believe in smacking children either.
She is now screaming at me that she is sorry and that she will be a good girl, but I'm following Supernanny's thing of I am in control and I will determine when she can say sorry before we get over it. Then she'll scream at me that she has finished her screaming and honestly believes everything will be ok. I know she is only 2.6 but I'm beginning to lose the will to live with it all.
Sorry, this has been a really long rant, but I now feel comfortable to be able to vent my feelings like this to you all!
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loopylou0612 · 30/08/2006 16:52
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