I have a boy who is just about to turn 9. He is happy, sociable, usually eager to please and collaborate, sensible and with lots of friends. He is happy and liked at school and doing well.
About once a week however he has a huge tantrum. The only way to describe it is to say he acts like a 3 year old but with more attitude. This can happen any time, before getting ready for school, getting ready for bed, before meal times, when we are going somewhere. He will blankly refuse to do what is asked of him, he gets quite aggressive, he lashes out and kicks, shouts, swears and screams and says he doesn't care to what ever I say.
I feel that I have tried everything, talking, being friendly, joking, distracting, being strict, threatening, bribing etc etc but nothing seem to work. He can't explain himself why he does this. It usually ends up with me totally loosing my patience, shouting and screaming, saying things I regret later and even smacking him. I have accidentally hurt him on a few occasions when "holding him down" when he lashes out or trying to lift him in to the bathroom of what ever.
I feel I have no handle of the situation and I am incredibly upset about it. I feel he is not happy and I am not helping him and that I/we somehow are the cause of this. My husband thinks I am overacting and that this is normal. We have two younger children and I usually love being a mum and before having kids, had great ideas how I was going to be and how much fun I was going to be etc etc. But no I feel that I am failing miserably. Please help!
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Can't be a good mum to my 9 year old - help!
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Nena7 · 07/05/2014 09:40
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