My son is going to be 4 soon and I think he's quite normal in most ways except he will still throw a wobbly sometimes if he doesn't get his own way. Not ALL the time, but he seems to go through stages of doing it a lot and then he'll be good for a while, and then it will start again.
The kind of thing I mean, is that sometimes he has trouble 'taking turns' with other kids and will whine and complain when it's someone else's turn, even though I've explained many times that he has to take turns, share, etc etc. Same story if it is time to stop playing with his toys or if I want him to leave an activity because we have to go home, that kind of thing. I always try to give him a warning (eg. we're going in 5 minutes, you have a couple of minutes left and then it's time to stop playing, etc etc). And sometimes it works, but other times it can range from a lot of whinging and whining, to lying on the floor and kicking his legs. The latter doesn't happen too often thank goodness. It also bugs me that dh sometimes doesn't back me up enough, and he isn't always consistent with handling ds' behaviour... he will tell ds to do something, and if ds doesn't do it, dh will just let it go. Other times dh is good with him but it usually depends on what mood he's in.
What I want to know is - do other kids still react like this at nearly 4?? He goes from being cooperative & good-tempered one week, to being extremely defiant, whiny & naughty the following week. If he doesn't do what I say, or if I see him behaving badly for whatever reason, he either gets a time-out or I remove him from whatever activity he's doing - so I'm trying to be consistent, but it can be a pain in the . I know there have been other threads on bad behaviour, but I would just like to hear whether I'm handling it ok and whether his behaviour sounds normal for his age group. Cannot wait til he grows out of this
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Nearly 4 yrs old.... thought he'd be past this by now
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Nic04 · 07/03/2004 05:33
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