Hello
First post posted in desperation. I'd love any feedback, positive or negative, which could help with my current situation.
I'm the mother of a 6 year old boy (sorry, everything longhand, hate abbreviations!). He can be kind, thoughtful, loving but he can also be exceptionally naughty. You may say "well, all 6 year old boys are naughty" but when you've had to put up with being hit and kicked for the last four years, with NO punishment enough of a deterrant for him to stop, then you'll understand that the "all 6 year olds are naughty" statement doesn't sit well with me.
Sometimes he'll walk past me and give me a light tap. Sometimes, and more often than not, he'll kick me if he's not happy with something (he can't have sweets, for instance). I'm not a physical person myself and neither is my husband (his dad) so this behaviour is shocking to me. I've been firm with him from the outset. He knows what kind of behaviour I expect from him - I tell him often enough. And yes, I do praise him where praise is due. But you name it I've tried it. Reward charts don't work. Taking loved items away doesn't work. Promising him toys that I know he's desperate for doesn't work. He's so strong willed. At the opposite end of the scale he cries when he lines up in the morning at school - he doesn't want to leave me. The teacher kindly made him a reward chart which he was receptive to at first, now we're back to the tears again. I do understand this as I was like that at his age - except I always kept it in. I dread to think what it will be like going back to school after Christmas.
I recently went to the doctor to ask for help. She was incredibly sympathetic (you never know if you're opening up a can of worms when you talk about it to other people). She said she would refer him for psychotherapy but it actually ended up with me being send on a parenting course instead. The first session was about looking after yourself, which to me was a wasted week. For various reasons I could no longer attend the course, so am now stuck with the same situation at home.
My home life is horrid. We generally argue within a few minutes of waking up. I am physically drained from it all. Does anyone have any ideas because I'm out of them and want us all to have a mostly peaceful life.
Thanks for reading.
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6yo boy's behaviour - please help
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Zorkit · 27/12/2013 23:10
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