I am so so fed up with DD (just turned 4).and yesterday I felt annoyed with her to the point I wanted to shout my arse off at her. I need some perspective because atm I feel at a loss what I should be doing.
We spent the day at ILs and SIL also went with her DC. DD plays with her DCousin who she adores (he is a few years older) but they can end up fighting or DD ends up in tears. They are both to blame really, DD wants her own way all the time. She can be so stubborn and kicks off. I just cannot reason with her when she is being like this, it feels like we are back at the terrible two's stage. She cannot tolerate anybody else having something she likes. He is no better, constantly goading DD and winding her up.
Yesterday there was a toy which he was holding and she really wanted it. He wasn't playing with it so SIL asked him to give it to DD. But he deliberately threw it behind the telly so she couldn't have it. Cue tears and DD trying to hit him.
They kept doing this to each other, had to break a few fights but I tried my best to keep my cool. DMIL has a kids table with chairs for the DC to have their tea when visiting but unfortunately we were dealing with 4 kids, 3 chairs as 1 broke. The other kids are older and quick to go grab a seat cue DD again in floods of tears and hitting and pulling DCousins off to sit down. I explained to her they are taken and to come sit with me at the big table (have to help her to eat anyway, fussy eater). But nope she wasn't having any of it. He ended up punching her which made DD hysterical which set DC2 off. I just wanted to scream at the little feckers at this stage. I ended up taking DD into the other room to calm her down but she continued sobbing and lashing out at me. Eventually had to bribe her (which I try not to do too much) and thats the only way she listened to me. She then instantly wanted to be his friend again but he wasn't having any of it, and telling her to go away.
Thankfully they got on a bit better after dinner and then it was time to go home. But as soon as we got out and into the car, I burst into tears. I dont know why. A combination of stress and humiliation and disappointment in DD. I dont do emotions very well and I know neither does she but I cannot cope with this on a regular basis. Have decided to give going to ILs a break for a few weeks, and perhaps cutting out her DCousin for a bit longer and then we will see. how can I handle DD's behaviour? She acts like a spoilt brat when she really isn't. We dont indulge her with things nor is she deprived. Yet if she sees something she likes she goes green and HAS to have it. We dont let her all the time obviously and have tried being firm yet calm. But there's no reasoning with her.
Sorry its long and thanks if you got this far but I kinda needed to get it off my chest. Any advice or tips greatly appreciated.
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I am so fed up with DD
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WahIzzit · 03/11/2013 07:18
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