DS1(7) had school event on this evening and the teacher sent a note saying that to celebrate the class will be having a small party tomorrow and dcs are permitted to bring sweets into school for it. So, i told DS that if he behaved this evening during the event (parents were expected to attend and dcs sat with them) then we would go to the shop and get soem sweets for the party, ds2 is 3 and i also told him that he could choose sweets to have at hime tomorrow if he behaved aswell. however many times throughout the hour i had to speak to both of them to stop talking to each other, ds1 was turning round and responding to the girl behind him who admittedly was goading him, ds2 also left his seat once the event was over and i was taking a photo of ds1 with his class and refused to come back to me when i called him. i had to actually lift him out from between two seats. it does sound very bad but the talking between the 2 of them was whispering and although not disrupting anyone else, they had both been told several times to stop it yet i kept having to tell them again. once we were outside the venue ds1 asked if he had been good and i told him no. he started crying and saying he didn't liek me. ds2 then asked the same and again i said no he hadnt been good and he started crying. ds1 took himself straight to bed when we came in and refused to speak to me and ds2 apologised for his behaviour.
so, do i stick with the no sweets and let ds1 be the only one in class without sweets in for the party, or do i go tomorrow morning and get some? i know logically i shouldn't because thsi is the consequence that was given but i really do feel terrible that ds will be the only one with nothing in tomorrow and will be upset infront of his classmates.
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i'm wavering- am i doing the right thing or too harsh?
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Booyhoo · 20/03/2013 22:56
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