My 6 year old DS doesn't seem to know how to calm down. he goes crazy when he's with his mates - they all go crazy in fact - but whereas they can come down to earth easily enough, he doesn't seem to be able to. he went round to his friend's house today - there were 4 boys there all together - and they had an easter egg hunt, a picnic lunch and a play around. I went to collect him 3 hours later and they were all running around madly. Half an hour later screams came from upstairs - apparently my DS had just tried to strangle another boy becuase he was trying to take a particular toy from him. The other boy was crying which seemed to wind up my DS even more - he started yelling and screaming at him to shut up, even though he admitted to me he had tried to strangle him ( I think actually he was pulling the neck of his jumper which was 'strangling him' rather than putting both his hands round his neck and squeezing deliberately). I told DS we were going home and he yelled and screamed as we walked to the car (thank god we weren't walking home) and shouted 'I hate you' and 'Do you want to kill me then?' as we drove home. It took about an hour to calm him down and we have withdrawn his computer game and TV privileges (he normally has about 0.5 hrs on the comupter and about 1.5 hrs of TV a day) and told him he can't go to karate tomorrow.
He has these tantrums occasionally, usually after he's been playing with his friends and it all has to end. He's very dependent on his friends' opinions and hates it if he's not 'one of the gang'. Most of his gripes come from the fact that his friends have things which we won't allow him (ie Playstations and access to crap TV channels like Jetix).
I dont think his problems are food related - he eats pretty healthily normally - good home cooking, very little processed or junk food, although he likes chocolate and has a McDonalds once in a blue moon.
MY DH thinks he may have something called sensory integration disorder. I've read the wesbite he found and I don't agree. I think he's just a normal, lively 6 year old boy - although it does always seem to be him who leaves these get-togethers in tears or tantrums. But at other times he can be an incredibly thoughtful, loving child and isn't having any problems at school.
Is anyone else going through this? His temper and cheekiness seemed to get much worse when he started school about 15 months ago, and he does hang round with some quite 'lively' boys. He seems so anxious to impress and the trouble starts when one or more of them seem to challenge him or turn against him.
any ideas appreciated....
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Is this normal behaviour for a lively 6 year old boy?
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Wordsmith · 18/04/2006 21:13
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