I joined a gym before my daughter developed separation anxiety at about 16 months old (before that, she was quite happy whether or not I was around) thinking that it'd be great to go to a couple classes every week and I could pop her in the creche.
But with her separation anxiety, she has total hysterics when I try and leave her, she acts really frantic. I really don't think that at her age she is capable of 'manipulating' me, I think it's more that she does feel genuine distress in that moment. But I can't decide if I should just persevere with it, as she'll get used to the creche and to the people who work there and maybe grow to enjoy it/ have fun, or if I should just see it as being too much upset and not worth it.
I'm a SAHM and plan to be one until she's about 2 or 3 so she's not used to being left in a creche / nursery setting, however she has lots of other people in her life except me who she's happy to go with when she knows them well.
She's always been very sensitive about everything and I'm wondering if maybe I'm pushing her too much by trying to leave her in the creche - or if I'm just being a wimp and should just DO it? DH thinks I should leave her in the creche and it'll be good for me and in the long run, good for her.
It feels like a very frivolous 'problem' in that many people HAVE to leave their children in nursery /creche because of work, whether separation anxiety is going on or not. But I think I'd feel better about it if I had to work... It's not as though I HAVE to go to the gym, so maybe I should just save her the misery and not do it. I worry a bit that I'm doing a bit of psychological damage by putting her in there when it distresses her so much, but again DH thinks that's ridiculous as it's only an hour and she's usually with me the rest of the day. My head completely agrees with him but my heart feels too wimpy to go along with it!
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should I leave my baby at the gym creche?
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hmmmum · 17/11/2012 10:37
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