dd1 (5) is being really mean to dd2 (22 months).
she says she loves her and does cuddle and kiss her and read to her but ive noticed that when i leave the room dd2 ends up crying.
it swings from over the top cuddling/squeezing ending up with dd2 getting pushed over/hurt, to dd1 just poking/smacking/pushing dd2 as she passes by and again dd2 getting hurt.
dd2 can be rough and i always move her if she hits/snatches but dd1 never used to be rough back, but now dd2 isgetting bigger dd1 is getting really rough and mean with her.
today dd1 has squeezed dd2s ankle hard, hit her arm three times, swung her round till she fell, and squeezed her in a bear hug. dd2 says stop it stop it and then cries.
i have spoken to dd1 saying dd2 is much smaller and is getting hurt, warned her she could really damage her, put her on naughty step, dd1 cries and says she is sorry and kisses dd2 better (who forgives her immediately) but she carries on doing it.
i give dd1 attention, read to her every night, do her homework with her, and at the weekend i play with her for 2 hrs while dd2 naps, i praise her when she is kind nice and helpful. dp takes her out to the park and plays with her. i go to every school event, go to assemblies, make sure im there for her.
she says she doesnt know why she does it and loves dd2 more than anything.
i dont know how to deal with it, im worried dd2 will get hurt more and more, i cant leave them alone at the moment and constantly have to split them up and feel like its ruining our family life.
help please
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really struggling to deal with sibling rivalry/violence.
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familyfun · 08/10/2012 21:30
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