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dd HATES her buggy! help.

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nightowl · 16/03/2006 03:53

dd (just over 2) refuses to go in her buggy which would be fine by me if only i could control her! she wont hold hands at all, if i try to she either slips her hand out and runs away or throws herself on the floor. same with reins or wrist strap, its a fight to get them on then she will throw herself on the ground and refuse to get up. if i try to put her in the buggy i get kicked and punched and its rather like trying to get an octopus in a handbag.

on five minute journeys to the local shop its fine. she runs just ahead of me near enough for me to scoop her up if i saw a car coming but i absolutely cannot do this on main roads as she has a tendency to run into the road at any given moment. i havent been out anywhere further than the local shop for weeks on foot and i dont have a car. does anyone have any ideas? there's no point me trying to explain anything to her as although she understands every word i say she does not take any notice at all! grrrr.

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NannyL · 16/03/2006 09:12

OK, i would make her hold hands, and if thats too much of an issue for her strap her into the buggy kicking and screaming. (my 3 year old often does NOT want to hold hands but that is tough, she WILL hold my hand... althoughs she may not be holding mine i am most definitely holding hers (she soon realises that its easier to just hold hands nicely)

she will soon get the message.

At the end of the day she is 2 years old, you are the adult and what you say goes weather she likes it or not.

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threebob · 16/03/2006 09:18

Hip seat?

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Katemum · 16/03/2006 09:57

Could the problem be that she doesn't understand the difference between the five min walk to the shop where you will let her walk on her own and a longer trip where you wouldn't?
Think i would insist on all trips that she is restrained in some way until she gets used to the idea.

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kbaby · 17/03/2006 21:21

My DD whoe 22 months hates the buggy also but after a 5 minute struggle of trying to get her in without being kicked etc then shes generally ok.
Why dont you just say that unless she holds your hand shes in the buggy?

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nightowl · 18/03/2006 00:59

oh i do i give her the ultimatum all of the time, hand or buggy but it doesnt make a scrap of difference.

nannyl, its just not possible for me to make her hold my hand. if i grab hers she goes weak at the knees and just wont stand up at all iyswim. if i carried on walking it would mean literally dragging her on her knees which im obviously not going to do.

i do have to force her into the buggy but im fed up of being kicked and being late everywhere i go because it takes about 15 mins trying before i finally get her into the buggy!

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serenity · 18/03/2006 01:11

Bribery? If you get in the buggy then when we get back we can do ? I'm quite bad though and will quite readily bribe with the promise of 'choc-choc' at the shops

DD will also get in if I have a good activity for her do once she's in - notebook and pencil, little electronic toy or doll for example.

I think this age is quite difficult in that they want more independance, but they haven't developed enough of a sense of self preservation to deal with it!

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nightowl · 18/03/2006 01:18

its a good idea but ive tried it. sometimes i will say to her e.g. "ooh shall we got to the park on the way back home and you can go on the slide? (she loves the slide) but you have to be a good girl and get in the buggy?" she will say "yes" jumping up and down.....and then as soon as i pick her up to put her in she changes her mind! once she's in full tantrum mode bribery doesnt work anyway.

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jabberwocky · 18/03/2006 02:22

Have you looked at one of those trikes with the handle and the little bin in back? They have a seatbelt and you can lock the steering wheel so that you control the steering instead of them. Ds loves his.

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nightowl · 20/03/2006 01:08

ooh no, where would i find one of those? she has a trike but its not a very good one and her little feet dont touch the pedals, the seat is really too far back!

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jabberwocky · 20/03/2006 04:09

\link{http://www.outdoortoycompany.co.uk/BerchetTrikes.asp\This} is the one we have and it is really great!! I actually found out about it through the MN recommendations.

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bran · 20/03/2006 09:10

My friend had a problem with getting her ds to wear reins but found that he would wear a rucksack with reins similar to this \link{http://shop.babyworld.co.uk/DisplayDetail.aspx?prodid=461\one}.

My ds was too short for me to hold his hand when he was first walking and although he would wear reins he didn't like putting them on. My aunt brought one of \link{http://www.travelingwithkids.com/product_info.php/pName/two-in-one-harness-buddy/cName/airports-airplanes-health-safety\these} back from a holiday in the States and he loves wearing it now. Sometimes he even asks to "put monkey on".

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moosh · 20/03/2006 13:59

Ds2 is the same age as your dd (2.1 yrs) and he has hated his pushchair for about 6 months now. He too hates the reins, but I don't care what he thinks. He has no road sense yet and I can't be 100% sure that he will stay away from the edge of the road.
I put his wrist reins on he may fight me but I am stronger and quicker and they go on after a little tussle. If he throws himself on the floor when the reins go on I will put him in the pushchair. He goes stiff and fights kicks me really hard and screams but I explain to him that he can walk if he wears the reins. If he won't let me put them on, he stays in the pushchair.
Everyone looks at him and at me when he is screaming but I hold my head high block out his noise and go on with my daily routine.
If all else fails, have you got one of those little trikes with a seat belt on and a handle at the back. Use that when you go on your 5 min trips at least she can't run away and risk being killed by a vehicle and you won't loose her at the shops and she may have fun in her trike. I do this on the school run and he seems to enjoy it alot. Children need to learn over time that the roads are dangerous and that she CANNOT go running off you could lose her in the shops.

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JMo · 20/03/2006 14:21

A gentler idea, which works with my little girl, is that we strap her favourite cuddly toy in the pushchair and she helps me to push him to the shops - that way, she holding the pushchair & I know she's safe, plus she's having fun!

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nightowl · 21/03/2006 00:03

thanks for all the replies. i do force her into the buggy in the end moosh but im fed up with being late everywhere i go, and im fed up with journeys being a nightmare. (being kicked i can take, im 'ard ).

im really interested in the trike or backpack ideas, i think the backpack is something she'd really go for (and much cheaper!). she loves to carry her own "shopping" around. where could i get one? maybe an animal one? is the harness something they cant wriggle out of easily?