Sorry it's me again about DS. Not sure if I'm just over obssessed with what is going on because he is my first born or not....
DS has three more weeks at Nursery (half day Wed, Full days Thur and Fri), and starts school in January. He is COMPLETELY miserable about being there. He is the oldest, the biggest, the brightest there and in a group where there are a lot of just three year olds (as in they've only just turned three). At home he is lovely, well behaved (as much as any 4.5 year old can be), responsive, chatty, bright, interested, concentrates well etc etc. As soon as he walks through the door he changes, he's surly, rude, upset about me leaving, patronising to the littlies and has started throwing things. He threw a table last week (though how nursery let him get that far is beyond me), although it was whilst they were 'containing' him in the play room and had let the others be outside. And he gets really angry quite easily there, which winds him up and I can see him winding down at the weekend, it too until Saturday teatime for him to be 'normal' again this week . And he keeps saying he doesn't want to be there. Is this bored behaviour or a symptom of something else????
I think he is anxious about starting school - he's a boy who loves his routine and doesn't know what to expect i think. We are going for a half day session next week to help him out. I have given him a chart with the days to go until he leaves nursery marked on it, and promised that he can go and see Santa on Sunday if he is good today and tomorrow, which he is excited about and has agreed to at home, but it just goes out of his head at nursery. I'm letting him have breakfast with me at home, playing for half an hour and going to nursery late and picking them up early (I also have a DD who is younger).
I know there are only 8 more days to go, but it breaks my heart to see him like this, and nursery have suggested that he might need 'professional help' whatever that means, and they make me feel like it's all my fault. We've been to the Dr's who feel that it's a nursery issue as he is so good at home, but we've also had a blood test as he is so so so pale at the moment (well White actually and very red eyed too).
Has anyone else been in this situation?? Is there anything else anyone can suggest that I can try. Sorry to go on about this but I'm now sat at work bawling because I'm feeling like the worst kind of parent and I'm at a loss as to what to suggest at nursery.
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WedgiesMum · 04/12/2003 12:37
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