Does anyone have any thoughts on whether I am being a mad unreasonable pregnant lady, or relatively normal?
I'm a little over 39 weeks with my first, don't know if it's a girl or a boy. Today I received a letter from DP's granny, who is very sweet and about 3,000 years old. She came straight out in the letter and asked us to use a family name (DP's great great great grandfather or somesuch), or a feminine version of it if it's a girl. I'm actually not averse to the name, it's v normal, but obviously we've been having name conversations for a really really long time, and this isn't one that has ever come up, or particularly appeals. My problems with using it are:
- I have already agreed to give the baby DP's surname (we are unmarried and likely to stay that way for the forseeable future)
- We agreed to use his surname on the basis that we would use a name from my side of the family (repeatedly used, coincidentally on both my mum and dad's side) for either first or middle name - haven't decided yet, but most likely middle name
- I feel that if we gave it DP's granny's choice of name for either first or middle name, I would be losing the sense of my family's identity within my child's name (2 of DP's family names to one of mine) and besides which it would then have a name composed entirely of old family names, not a single one of actually our choosing (reason for putting my family name as middle name is to allow us a 'new' name for the first name).
Have texted DP and told him about the letter, but he hasn't replied, and I'm so worried he's going to want me to use this name. AIBU to refuse? What can I say in my favour?